You know what's really unfair? 

Assumptions.

Until today, I never realised how truly disgusting and evil assuming can be. And the sad thing is, that people who do assume, will do it over the most trivial, stupid, time-wasting things. Wanna hear a funny story, that will literally make you slap your forehead in defeat? 

Let's go. 

So approximately two weeks ago, it was my very very close cousins engagement - she's pretty much like my sister - and so at the reception, I was ushering people into the hall, and informing everyone of where they were sitting. Now two girls walk in - two girls who I have known for a very long time. One of them [B1] used to be my best friend but sadly, we drifted apart due to outside influences. Despite this, there is nothing malicious between us and we're both not the type to sit there and brood towards each other. The second girl [B2], we're completely normal with each other.

So the two girls come in, I smile brightly and greet them, they smile back blah blah. Then I look onto the paper in my hands to find their table number and once I do, I say "oh yeah, you guys are on table 23, the extra table." I walk in and show them where to sit and literally that is the first and last time I spoke to them for the rest of the night, not for any reason, other than the fact that I was busy running around the whole time. 

Anyway two days after the engagement, B2's mum approaches my auntie [the bride's mother] and says "Oh my daughter [B2] said that booohh was being rude to her on the engagement." Baffled, my auntie asks how? The mother replies with, "Oh she was saying that they were on the 'extra' table." 

Now at this point, I actually want to punch myself in the face from the amount of stupidity those words hold. Let me mention, that when I was saying 'extra table' I was more than anything, mumbling it to myself and meant it in absolutely no offensive way. 

Anyway here's where the assumption comes in...my auntie tells her that I was probably just so busy and that B2 misunderstood what I was saying. THEN the mother says, "Oh it's probably because B1 [my ex-bestfriend] was there and that's why she was being rude." 

.........

Excuse me, whilst I jump off a cliff and contemplate what's happened to humanity. No I'm actually being serious. What the hell is wrong with people, that they just love to cause trouble over the smallest of things? I mean this girl was so cut up, she was ignoring me today at another party, despite her sitting right across from me.

I have known this girl for most of my life. Why would I have directly wanted to offend her by saying that? Are we all really that childish? What happened to giving someone the benefit of the doubt, or if anything, if she was really that upset, why would she not just come and talk to me about it, instead of gossiping off to her mother and getting others involved. 

All it would've taken was a 'hey I didn't like the way you were talking to me' - 'oh I'm sorry' and then done deal.

Assumptions are one of the worst things people can do - it's a wonder as to why Allah SWT has warned us of it in the Qur'an, in his infinite wisdom. I shudder to think, that if one word can cause such 'offence' what would happen to such feeble charactered people, when others actually intentionally hurt them. 

How does this relate to the book? I'm not merely ranting here. It's another issue I've witnessed amongst the Arab community, well, especially the people I'm surrounded by. It's a problem - but most people won't acknowledge it as one. 

One assumption and one word can equal the diminishing of a long-term friendship. How utterly sad and stupid.

Assumptions need to stop - period. 

A reminder to myself first and foremost. 

~ You guys ever experience something similar? Ever had an assumption thrown your way? Comment below your experiences.