So you've started a new YouTube channel, things are going well, and you're first place on your mental leaderboard. But as time passes, you begin to see more and more "hate comments" appear on the comment section of each video you post. 

Sometimes, these comments can be by the same person. Things could escalate, and as your channel builds, that person will grow with jealousy. So how can you deal with a person who continues to mock your YouTube growth? Start with step one for some advice. 

Ignore the comment. Sometimes, people will say things just so that they can get a laugh when you finally give in to their hatred. Don't do this. Most of the time, haters are jealous because they can't do what you are able to accomplish. Ignore the bait and just keep doing what you were doing.  

Use the hatred as a "stimulus." This means to use their critical stand point as a way to upgrade your videos. What do they have a problem with? Maybe people will think that your video quality is bad. Upgrade it. If they still find something to tease you about, they're just trying to get under your skin. 

 Avoid taking it personally. Just because some people think your growth is a lie doesn't mean you have to believe them. 

Address the hater. When ignoring the hater isn't an option, approaching the user directly may help alleviate the jealous tension. Try this conversation starter:

"I appreciate your constructive criticisms, but at times, it can come across a little harsh. Is there anything I can do to help promote a working environment?"Reduce your interactions with the hater if they continue or escalate their actions. This means that you should try not to address the haters if he/she decides to continue nagging at you despite your "address" comment.Also, beware that even though you might feel the nerve to type something negative right back at the hater, this is not very productive. It only raises tension between you and the user.

If thing escalate much too quickly, block the user.

Connect with the user about your personal struggles that relate to theirs. Some people will sometimes feel like they are the only ones with negative experiences, and the only way to help them feel better is to make others feel their pain.

Share the times you have failed at something. Be specific!

Try to let them rant on, even if it is hatred.Understand that their hatred isn't really directed towards you! Sometimes, the things that others say are really what they feel about themselves and that they really want to have someone along side them. 

 Be generous. Be generous to all of the subscribers you have and be willing to except criticism. That's what make you better person! 

Don't Try To Get Revenge

One of the most common errors new media artists make is trying to get even with the troll. Instead of getting in a shouting match, let it roll off you back. It's not worth your time. Don't take our word for it, here's what friend of NMR and YouTube comedian David So had to say on the matter.

"It's not worth it. I respond because it's fun. If you do it for retribution it's a complete waste of your time. Roll with the punches its part of the job" –

 Don't Let Them Discourage You

No one wakes up and suddenly is a YouTube celebrity. MysterGuitarMan and KassemG worked for years to get new media fame and so will you. The difference between the successful celebrities and the one hit wonders is they didn't let some bad comments stop them. If someone hates your stuff, so what? How's their YouTube channel going? Oh that's right they don't have one. We asked YouTube performer Kaleb Nation how he bounces back from negative press.

"It's easy to ignore negative comments when you see how little intelligent thought is put into 98% of the hate, and when you remember the commenters still counts a as view. You always win over the trolls in the end that way" – Kaleb Nation

Delete, or Don't Delete, It Doesn't Matter

If there is hate in your comments section, don't let it stress you out. At the end of the day it is your choice whether or not you want to delete or keep a bad comment. Deleting it won't prove anything and keeping it won't make a difference. Actress Arden Cho had this to say about deleting negative comments

"I read all my comments so it's hard to ignore the bad ones but if it's constructive I take it into consideration and if it's obnoxious I try my best to ignore it. I don't delete negative comments because everyone is entitled to their own opinion and if you put yourself out there you've gotta be ready for the good and the bad. Plus the people who are going out of their way to "bash you" are the type to make second accounts to spam you with more hateful comments if you delete their posts or block their accounts. So don't let the haters stress you out. Just remember you've got more people that love you than hate you."-

YOU'RE SUCH A SLUT

There are alternative forms of hate and negativity. Sometimes it is just insults. Bitch. Slut. Ugly. Fat. So many times I have been told I have fat legs. Other times men write disgusting misogynistic drivel, along the lines of stating what they would do to me, if they met me, and their words and their manner are both equally revolting. Another young lady wrote that she was going to kill all of my family, and then later asked why she had been blocked, stating she was 'joking.'

Others go into a little more detail, often with a jealous undertone. "You're such a show off". "You have more money than sense". One person once wrote, "If only that £100 face cream could fix your crooked face." I laughed out loud at that one. People sometimes only see what is in front of them, and what they want to see. Me displaying my new handbag. They're not looking at the hard work it took for me to save for said handbag and the fact that I also buy said handbag in order to create more beautiful content for my blog and my channels, because I am in fact, a fashion blogger.

Then there are the people who try to wrap their hatred up with some sort of non offensive sandwich. We've all heard this one... 'No offense but'. "You looked way better with your other hair colour". "You wear too much makeup". "That lip colour looks so ugly on you". "You should be ashamed at the way you promote insecurities." Honestly, yes I am human, and now and again I may look at a photo of someone and think, today she has a little bit too much makeup on perhaps, but never ever would I dream of writing it down for the world to see and for them to read and become upset by. There is no reason to hurt someone's feelings. What does the hater achieve from spreading their hate?!

Then there is religious hate, and I'm not even going to get into that. But I just don't stand for people preaching any religious views on my feeds, when it is for the purpose of upsetting others.

There are also those of the younger generation who have not come to terms with the idea of being friends with men. Last week when my friend  posted a picture of us both together at a party on her Instagram, the comments went crazy, and equally splashed over onto my Instagram, with comments relating to us acting stupid  and other ridiculous nonsense. And I was happily laughing it off until one or two people decided to make it personal and started to write personal hatred comments towards me. I shouldn't need to have time for people picking me apart because they feel they have the right to.

  For anyone reading, who is dealing with online hatred or bullying, please feel free to comment below and lets discuss ways to deal with how you're feeling. Too many young people are feeling alone, bullied and depressed due to the words of other people online, and it's gone too far. I'd love to form a discussion as to how we all can deal with hatred and help others who are struggling. 

Adaleta •

That feeling of anxiety and filling some turmoil in the pit of your stomach from comments like this is truly something that can and will likely ruin someone's day. I completely understand where you're coming from and can appreciate your comment quite a bit. Sometimes even when I write something positive, people write rude commentary back!

••rae tashman (@lovefromberlin) •

This was such a fantastic read - it is unfortunate that in the blogging world, hate is something that comes with the territory. I think that ignoring negativity is honestly the best policy as well!

Rae |

••hstrv •

It's funny how negativity always has such a big impact. even though you probably get 1000 positive comments for every negative one, it'll be that one that stands out... Just remember you are beautiful and smart and hardworking, such an inspiration to so many young girls out there (and older ones, namely me) because of your positive attitude. Keep going at it, you're doing great! Xx

••Filipa G. •

This is my first time ever coming across your blog, so I may not know you as your other followers do, but I have to thank you, sincerely, for writing this post. I've had a relatively vast experience with bullying and cyberbullying, which happened mainly on Facebook, since it was my only social media account back then. Because of those repetitive experiences, I took a long break from the internet and the public, narrowed down my friendly circle to a handful of people, and "disappeared" for a while. Looking back now, I was so young, I had no idea how to deal with any of that. I didn't have the maturity to, either.

I'm starting over now, slowly exposing myself again. I know they can come back, I know the story can repeat itself again and sometimes it still scares me. Reading this, coming from someone who is older and more experienced than me, is extremely reassuring. Again, thank you so much.

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