Hi,

I'm reading Your Wattpad Agony Aunt and was wondering if you could help me on how to talk to boys?

Thanks.

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Hey!

Firstly, I'm more than sure that more than 50% of you have this problem: talking to guys.

So, pay attention...I don't want to get fifty versions of the same question! Although I'd completely understand. BOYS ARE HARD WORK OMFG

You said talking to boys in general, so I don't know if you mean talking to your crush or just any guy.

But, I'll try my best.

One thing yea: don't forget that boys are humans too. They may be from Mars and we from Venus (I love that book!), but we're all humans. One thing that lots of girls do is forget that they are, so they see them as unavoidable beings.

But they're really not.

I asked a boy to help me out on this one. Because as much as they're humans, they're rather complicated and very different from us in the way they see things.

Thanks to astro-Gage for his useless help. You suck<3

And a big thank you to arghie_291 for her AMAZING HELP ON THIS ONE OMG BAEEEE <3 <3

She's so cool guys I love her so much:) follow this bitch!

Anyway, here goes.

1. Establish your motive

So, ask yourself why you want to talk to him (or them) in the first place. From this, we can map out a tree branching out in different directions to help.

Some reasons you may want to talk to him could be:

- you're attracted to him

- he's in your class, you need help or homework advice or something

- you want to be friends (to get to know him better)

- you want to be more than friends

2. Be gradual in the way that you talk to them

Don't make it awkward by just randomly talking to him. Start off slowly with a simple "hi!" or a smile every time you see him in class or the hallway, then gradually work your way to starting and carrying out full conversations with him.

Just appearing in front of him with a bang! Will make you look creepy, kay, so take your time - there's no rush. Continue talking until it becomes a regular thing.

2. Don't be shy/afraid

Whether you're trying to be his friend or more than that, confidence is key. Showing that you're shy or scared of talking to them will make you come across as a freak, yea.

Screw all these wattpad romance novels where every guy thinks that shyness is "cute". It's just a bit annoying, because he'll wonder why you're talking to him in the first place if you're struggling to get anything out of your mouth.

Even if they're intimidating sometimes, just try and show that you don't give a shit.

3. Be cool, but be yourself

Don't try or pretend to be all cool and badass or whatever stupid thing some girls try to do to come across as "one of the guys". Girls are different, and guys know that, so there's no point in trying to act like them.

Just be yourself. Be funny, chilled, relaxed.

4. Talk about common interests

For me, one reason I've always gotten along with "the guys" is because I LOVE FOOTBALL. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE FOOTBALL. I know so much shit about that sport, like loads of guys do, so I always find myself having a laugh or arguing (jokey-arguing) or just talking about football for hours on end.

As time goes by, they get comfortable talking to me about anything and everything, even confiding in me when they like someone or whatever. That's because, when you share an interest in something that you both like (or love), there's some sort of trust that you have for each other that is planted in you. Like you've seamlessly bonded just because of that one love for something.

So yea, I know that that may put me in the friendzone, but you'll discover two things out of it:

- so many girls who like guys come up to me and ask, "how is it so easy for you to talk to guys?"

It's not so much jealousy (well, sometimes it is lol), but it's sort of admiration, which is pretty cool.

- some guys find it HOT that I like football

SO YEA SOMETIMES I'M OUT OF THE FRIENDZONE, YASSS BITCHES!

I was just using myself as an example, lol, so I hope it's easier for you.

Find something that YOU like/love/are passionate about that he also likes/loves/is passionate about. You'll find that you can have a comfortable conversation about that one thing because you both like it a lot.

For example:

Girl: So I heard you're a Man U fan?

Guy: Yea *laughs* they're my team forever!

Girl: Omg me too! But we're a bit shaky now though, aren't we?

Guy: Yea, we are. Like our defence, oh word -

Girl: I know OMG LIKE SERIOUSLY but I guess we've to wait for Van Gaal to make his changes, huh?

That conversation will go on forever, believe me lol

This is only recommended for people who want to put themselves in the friendzone.

5.Warning: Don't pretend!

Don't pretend to like a certain thing just so you can say you have something in common. Like, don't pretend that you're into rock music just because he is. That's going to end badly, it really will (there are so many Disney episodes like that, lol!).

If you find that you don't have that much in common with someone, that's perfectly fine, okay? You can both agree to disagree.

Besides, guys like girls with some fight in them. You can find your conversation going like this:

Guy: I absolutely love rap. Childish Gambino, 2pac, yea. That's my shit.

Girl: Are you serious? *smiles* Rap is so loud and I just feel like they're shouting at me!

Guy:*laughs* it's poetry, you see!

Girl: meh, you can stick with your poetry and I can stick with mine.

Guy:*laughs* you're so cute. Let's agree to disagree, then.

I'm not telling you to disagree with everything he says though lol

6. Don't make yourself so clingy

Yea so whether or not you're aiming to be friends or more than friends, NEVER CLING ONTO THEM.

IT'S ANNOYING AS FUCK.

ALSO, YOU SEEM DESPERATE.

So sometimes you go up to them, but sometimes wait for them to come up to you. Converse regularly, but don't always be the one fueling the conversation.

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Guys are pretty chilled human beings (SOME ARE REALLY SEXY TOO OMG THEO JAMES HAIIIII), so it's not actually that much of a big deal talking to them.

JUST TALK TO THEM!

If any of you need advice on how to talk to your CRUSH, let me know.

- genie_us x