Dear Genie_us (Agony Aunt),

First  off, You're super cool and I love all your stories!

Second off,I need advice.

So I decided to end my relationship with my boyfriend. We were best friends for 3 years, and I cared a lot about him, the first few months was great when we were together but after that he changed. He wanted...sexual stuff from me and I'm not ready for crap like that, so I ended it.

Now he's upset and on top of that, a family friend of mine is crushing on me. I spend a lot of time with him because my mom and his mom are best friends. He knows I just got out of a relationship and I'm afraid he might make a move on me. I care a lot about him but I just got out of a relationship.

I'm confused and don't know what to do.

Help!

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Heyo!!!!

First off, THANK YOU! You are very kind, thank you for reading my stories! It is much appreciated.

Secondly, good on you for ending when you began to feel uncomfortable. I'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself, saying no to your (ex)boyfriend when he began to ask for sexual stuff.

If he is still upset, I think that you should talk to him gently about why you broke up with him. A lot of the time, we tend to end relationships and we think it's obvious why, but to the other person it really isn't clear. So you have to sit down and talk to him.

You said he was your best friend for three years, and so I'm sure he'll understand where you're coming from. Just honestly let him know that you felt he changed and that you weren't comfortable doing the sexual stuff he asked you for, and that's why you ended it. Closure may be all he needs to begin the process of moving on, and it may also be all you need to stop feeling upset by it.

With regards to the other guy who is crushing on you, don't let yourself get paranoid about him making a move on you if he hasn't really hinted towards it. And even if he does, you should do exactly what I just said: talk to him. Explain that you're still really vulnerable right now because you've just gotten out of a relationship and so you aren't looking for anything right now. Explain that you do cherish the friendship though and that you hope it's not awkward or anything.

He'll definitely understand.

Again, I'm proud of you for making that decision to say no to your ex. Just talk about it with the two guys, and hopefully everything will sort out itself.

Hope I helped!

Love,

~ genie_us xx

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