Hey!

I have a question and I need advice in return so can you please help me? It's Pretty urgent.

So what's happening is, is that about 2 years ago, this guy that I haven't noticed in my school yet. He asked me out. Like I said before, I've never heard of him so I said no. He kept on persuading and he did all kinds of things just to change my mind and make me like him. And if I think back about it now, all the things that he did for me was so sweet. And I feel so stupid now just thinking back to it. I feel like a total a total jerk because during all those times that he tried to do something for me, I would just avoid him and ignore him.

But like I said before, that was 2 years ago. Just at the beginning of last year, I found out that he found a girlfriend. And now I regret it so much for avoiding him all these time. So now the tables have turned and I'm the trying to get him now. So really my question is; What should I do about this? About him?

Funny what they say; "You don't realise what you have until it's gone."

- Stupid Love

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What's crazy is that this is pretty much the situation I'm kind of in right now! It sucks, it really does, because you're at this point where you'll try anything to see if you can relight that spark in him that once was.

However, there are some things that are out of your reach here.

Firstly, he has a girlfriend.

That's a warning sign, babe. I'm sorry to say, but he's off limits.

Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do. It's a baaadddd idea to try as get him to like you at this point, because we all know how that will end (and it won't be very pretty).

I think the hardest thing about being in such a situation as this is accepting the fact that you rejected and lost someone who was crazy about you, only to see them re-directing that craziness onto someone else who appreciates it (which you never did).

It sucks, I know. You miss the compliments and the gifts and the texts. You miss those cheesy lines. What seemed pathetic back then now seems adorable, and you feel bad.

Thing is, wasn't there a reason you didn't like him back at that time? You said you didn't know him and whatnot. Don't regret saying "no", because you had your reasons. It's okay not to like someone back sometimes. #NoRagrets (lol)

But anyway, you can't really change the past. You can apologize for how you treated him, but you shouldn't apologize for not liking him back at the time.

Back to the present:

The best you can do is be just his friend. Be nice to him, talk often (not too much though). Just be a good friend and if you ever get the chance to be with him alone, say sorry for how you treated him before.

Just don't flirt or be all touchy because remember, off limits!

Be a good friend when you have the chance to.

I don't know how solid his relationship with his girlfriend is, so if it's still going strong, you kind of just have to get over him. If they are no more, don't jump onto him immediately, just keep being a good friend and whatnot and see where that takes you.

In summary, I don't know if there's much you can do. You just kind of have to accept and move on, while trying not to repeat the mistakes you made - try and be nice to everyone regardless. Be nice to him too!

Hope I helped,

- genie_us xx