Hi!

So my mum works as a florist an her co-worker has a son and he had depression so they would tease him that me and him would get married and he always would be happy about it, he was beautiful. We would hang out a lot, cuddle with each other and my friends would take pictures of us.

He told my mum that he likes me, and when she told him that - I died! He is literally so perfect and I love him and his family so much, and they like me too.

The only problem is that he's 18 years old and I'm 14 years old. Is that really a problem, 'cause people say it's wrong and stuff but we like each other and it's like my own little love story...what do I do?

- Love Struck Puppy

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Hey you!

I apologise if this turns out to be real short.

Your love story seems amazing. Both parents from both sides even think you should be together! It's a match made in heaven, then!

I don't think the age difference is such a benefactor as to DTR (determine the relationship). What decides it is how he treats you, and the things you do together.

Yes, you're a little less mature (physically, emotionally as well as mentally I guess) than he is, but you'll grow. You'll grow smarter and more emotionally stable and all that stuff, so don't listen to the people that say it's wrong.

Because, when you're 32 and he's 36, it won't matter. Because, when you're 50 and he's 54, it really won't matter.

What seems like it matters now won't in the future, is all I'm saying.

I tried to list a few of the reasons why people would say such a relationship is wrong, and I wrote my advice accordingly.

Why it's apparently wrong:

1. He's eighteen - basically an adult

2. Underage sex/ having sex with a minor

3. She's probably not even done with puberty yet and stuff

What you gotta do:

Keep your head held high. If you know you've got something with this dude, don't just throw it away because of what they say.

I feel like it's fine that he's 18, that doesn't make him any more or less of an adult than if he was 17 (except by law, but not in any other way). As I said, it's what you two do in your relationship.

pls pls abstain from sex idk

#awkward

What you've got to do is just be careful in your relationship. The fact that he's older than you may mean he's just a tad smarter in stuff to do with females...and I'm not saying he's going to take advantage of you or anything, but older guys can be able to convince girls to do stuff that they don't know any better on. So just be cautious. Don't do things you aren't comfortable with. But hopefully, he will never pressure you into doing anything wrong; like alcohol or *cough* sex *cough* until you come of age.

(Why the sex thing is hard to talk about is because I'm not sure what your values are...)

I'd suggest you walk this walk with your mum. Tell her what's going on in your relationship, because she's wise and she'll advise/ guide you in the right direction. If she's alright with you two dating, nothing else should stop you. Just continue being honest about it with her. It's good when you have her to talk to, when it comes to him.

The fact that he's your first love is great, but I don't want you to be stupid and naive and whatnot.

Be smart, be cautious, but still continue to let yourself love - and be loved.

Hope I helped!

-genie_us