So this one is about straight allies. I just don't feel like there's enough appreciation to these people. Gosh I see so many posts teasing about oh they don't know how we feel, a Venn diagram with LGBT and straight and Cis on the other side with no overlap the allies being carved out of the other circle with the words "no overlap" on it. Then all the "straight people shouldn't be at pride" crap. I was a straight ally for nearly two years before I came out to myself and you have no idea how hard it really was. So let me tell you what it's like. I had been pretty much outcasted by the straight and cis world and left lonely and eventually found my way into the LGBT community, a place where I saw so much more kindness than I could have ever expected. I grew up in an excessively conservative environment so you can imagine what that was like, and at the time didn't support the LGBT community. Over a couple months of getting to know these wonderful people I finally let down my walls and declared that I was in full support only to myself tho and people online. I was terrified about my thoughts though. This opinion meant going against everything I've ever known and everyone around me. I loved the community and felt like I fit so much better there but I was straight and cis. I wasn't a "real" member. My friends were all in the community, but I always felt somehow left out. I just want you all to know that for a straight and cis person to openly and fiercely profess that opinion is to a lot of times outcast themselves from the straight and cis community. They are being pinged and set aside. They turning against their own kind and that's a whole lot harder than you think. Then after leaving this community where do they go? Where do they fit? The LGBT community? But I felt left out there. I was then left in this awful place in between. I wasn't really a part of the straight and cis community because I had rejected what they believed to be true, and I wasn't a part of the LGBT community because I was straight and cis. I couldn't go back because I was too passionate and supportive, so I tried so hard to find a place within the LGBT community. I looked through almost every label in the books to try and find one that fit me. There was just nothing. I was trying to become someone who I was not just for the simple case to fit in. And then every time I saw a post talking about how ridiculous straights are and how they do whatever, attacking and devaluing straight allies, I would get upset, but I didn't feel like I could say anything cause I "had no right to say anything. I didn't know their struggles. Bla bla bla." This is a problem. This absolutely should never happen to anyone. And don't ever tell me allies don't know rejection. I saw this one post that supported allies coming out and then I saw teasing on it. Don't give me that BS about how allies don't even begin to know how you feel. I remember the time I first told my mom I supported the LGBT community. I was sitting in a chair in front of the desktop nearly shaking to death I was so scared. I thought I would be viewed differently, talked down at, and get bible verses banged against my head. We fear rejection just as much as you do.

About two months ago I came out to myself as demipolysexual. It took a bit of a catalyst and it wasn't forced like I was trying to before. And I had never been happier. Suddenly I felt like I truly fit somewhere. I actually felt more supported and loved after I came out to myself and not before. This is because that homophobia and crap I had always experienced before. Every fear I had as a closeted polysexual was always there I had just experienced as an ally. The only difference is when I came out as polysexual I felt more justified in my fears and felt more supported in my beliefs.

To be completely honest, I really didn't have the courage to say any of this before I came out as polysexual because I didn't feel like I had a right to. But now that I feel a bit more comfortable I can state my opinion more fiercely.

STRAIGHT ALLIES ARE JUST AS MUCH A PART OF THE LGBT COMMUNITY AS ANY QUEER PERSON. You should love and appreciate them. Realize that they are rejecting and going against their own kind to be supportive of you. They are being cast out of their own community, give them a safe haven within your community because they deserve it.

If you are truly trying to craft a world of complete equality then you need to have crossover of the two communities. That Venn diagram should cross. And the section in between is straights and LGBT's living in full support and harmony together. Ideally this section should get bigger and bigger until it's just two circles overlapping and everyone is living in harmony with each one another and there isn't a divide between the two communities. None of this can happen until the LGBT community starts to encourage allies and except them as their own.

And finally never try and force them to try and be someone that they are not just to fit in. It's not only ok to be straight and cis, it's wonderful. You are just as colorful as the rest of us. You are the backbone to a New and accepting world to come, and you at least in my mind will always have a place in the LGBT community.