This will probably morph into an emotional-ass rant. I'd really appreciate your thoughts and comments on the matter!

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This past week one of my closest friends has become super, super emotional and it's obviously due to one thing:

A guy.

A series of [unfortunate] events (haha, best series evaaaa) has led me to write this rant in a fit of rage and anger and just, a need to get a point across.

We need to rewrite our stories.
I'm tired of reading Wattpad books about teen romance and watching chick flicks and rom-coms when if it comes to reality, the plot line apparently changes and I'm apparently stupid for not realizing that.

My friend has been obsessing over this guy, telling me he drives her crazy and all of this bullshit and even though he has a girlfriend, he and my friend been having a thing (basically he's with both of them), and he tells her you're the only one who I've ever trusted and I love you and I will wait for you, even after I leave...

What? Did I hear a scoff coming from you? You've probably just dismissed his statements, huh? Because he's cheating on someone else with my friend, you already don't trust his statements, am I right?

Yet, you're the loudest advocate for Jack and Rose's (Titanic) or Fitz and Olivia's (Scandal!) relationships because then, even though they're cheating (Rose had a fiancé, Fitz is married), they're meant for each other?

Wattpad romance stories aren't any better, because they'll follow the same plot: player boy has a girlfriend but he'll meet lesser girl and fall for her and they'll kiss and whatnot while he's still in a relationship.

But that's okay, right? Because it's true love? Because he doesn't really feel the same with the other girl?

Tell me then, how is that different to what's going on with my friend? He's telling her the same things that these Wattpad guys tell their girlies. So why aren't you scoffing at the Wattpad boys too? Instead, you all flood his statements (I included) with comments awwwwwww I love this! and I want a guy like that! But then when it comes to real life, we are angry at him for saying that, angry at what he's telling her.

And when you write your books, you make the guy's original girlfriend completely unlikeable so that you can justify his cheating - think again of The Titanic (I don't even remember Rose's fiancé's name). Yet in real life, you feel like punching the guy's face when it's your friend that he's cheated on, or when he cheats on you: you feel betrayed and you want your friends to be on your side. But if I remember correctly, you were on Jack's side. If I remember correctly, you were cheering for Olivia and Fitz, and you were cheering for every Wattpad romantic teen relationship where A cheated on B for C. Does this sound okay to you? Like even for a small second, does it?

We need to rewrite our stories.

Oftentimes my friend would come to me and say he doesn't really love me, he's just saying that...and what makes me different from the other girls? Of course, me loving all these rom-coms and whatnot, I'd tell her that he's being legit and to stop doubting herself because she's just bringing more unnecessary grief upon herself. I told her, why would he say it if he doesn't mean it?

What? Are you shaking your head? Was I saying the wrong thing? Well, course I was, but forgive me for reading all of your teen romance stories where when a guy says that, it's supposedly the truth!

You can't blame me.

Let me guess the reason you just didn't believe what he's telling my friend. How does that saying go again? Once a player, always a player. Or, people never change. Or how about old habits die hard? And you probably thought, if he's cheating on his girlfriend with my friend, what makes her so special that he won't cheat on her with someone else?

Ahh. Yet these thoughts of yours seem to disappear when you're reading teen romance books on Wattpad, and your comments turn into a whole party of fangirling and praise for this boy who is a Shakespeare with his words.

And you can't tell me that these books are a fantasy, or what we wish would happen. Because if we really believed it was a fantasy, we wouldn't have ever made that mistake of going for the players or bad boys in real life.

We always tell ourselves, of course players and bad boys exist; but when it's my turn with them, it's true love, it's genuine, he actually means what he tells me.

But then he'll break your heart, and you'll be so confused. Because the rom-coms didn't pan out that way, and the Wattpad romance novels didn't tell you this ugly, painful part of the story.

That's why I'm saying, we need to rewrite our stories.

We need to write stories where the girl will learn that bad boys won't just quit smoking just for them. We need to write stories where the player cheats on the good girl, where the girl can't change the boy. Because that's the reality of it. You just can't change some things about people, and even though we wish we could, we just can't.

That's why I'm very confused right now and I don't know how to tell my friend that her guy is asking me if we can hook up. Because where was this part of the story? Where was the bit where he was lying to her the whole time, and he's just a player and nothing more? Where is the part where the girl must realize she meant nothing to him and grows up as a result?

We are stuck in our stupid little dream of 10 Things I Hate About You where we think the bad boy or the player will, when they fall in love with us, stick around and buy us guitars when they mess up because they love us oh-so-much.

But we have to stop that. We can't keep giving ourselves illusions about what love is like. We can't give ourselves this idea that we are so damn powerful enough to change a guy. We need to rewrite our stories.

We need to redefine the kind of people we want to go for, the kind of people we want to date and the kind of people we want to love. We need to stop shutting down and friend zoning the nice guys in our books, the ones who are sweet and kind and legit care about the girl. We need to stop exalting the bad boys/players and we need to stop thinking that good boys cannot be attractive, or cannot be any more attractive than the bad ones. We need to stop thinking that their mysteriousness is more attractive than a guy who opens up to us. We need to stop thinking that the bloody scars on their knuckles are deeper than the song the nice guy wrote for you. We need to stop being attracted to the bad boys and expect that the turnout will be 100% good. We need to rewrite our stories.

We allow bad boys and players to exist and to hurt us endless in real life because all we do is fantasize about them, write books about them, watch movies about them, and chase after them, and give them a whole piece of ourselves.

But, we're not to blame, right?

I mean, these players and bad boys are simply irresistible. There's just something about the way he holds that cigarette that is just so...enticing.

(Note my sarcasm).

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Just so you know, no, there is no way in hell I'm getting with my friend's dude. Yuck. Like bruh, who needs that when you can stare at Bieber's Vogue shoot all day long 😍 (see picture).

I'm thinking of starting a blog this summer. I have too many issues with the world😂