When I was in 7th grade i had recently drifted away from all of my elementary school friends due to us not having any classes together anymore and i was alone. I met this girl at a school function called the yellow house who was a year older then me when they did an girls only sleepover. we quickly became best friends, we were both loud, annoying, and neither of us had many friends because of that but we both liked each other immediately and we stayed friends for a very long time we both slept over each others houses dozens of times over the next 4 years we talked about anything and everything i tried to get her into anime but it didn't stick with her and i was OK with that although disappointed. when she turned 18 i noticed a huge change in her personality that i didn't like, she became more rude to her parents,she would yell and scream at her parents and call them names and same thing with her brother saying that she didn't care about him or what happened to him, she didn't care about her future, she started to smoke every once and a while. I had tried to talk to her and explain how i didn't think what she was doing was write but she would just brush my concern off as nothing saying that she was an adult and her parents couldn't tell her what to do, i had noticed her doing this stuff before even when she was 15 or 16 but i brushed it off as just normal teenage parent relations like what I've seen on TV and in movies and had read about online because it was never about anything big, when i asked her what she planned to do with her future she said she wanted to take some classes at a local collage and then work with kids and continue to live with her parents. i tried to explain to her that her parents didn't have to keep her at home anymore and that if they really wanted to they could throw her out, she just said they would never do that. as time went on i grew more and more wary of her actions but i still concerted her my friend. one day she called me up to have a sleepover at her house, i asked my parents and they said yes and she said her parents were OK with it. when my grandmother dropped me off i could tell something was wrong the atmosphere at her house was off, almost hostile, when i was let in by her father i could hear her brother and mother fighting upstairs, i tried to brush it off as just another argument about something, so my friend and I went to her room to set up for the night a few minuets after the fighting stopped her mother came in the room and started to scold her for going against their backs and inviting me over for a sleepover and that they had agreed to let her have a sleep over but at my house because of the problems at home that they didn't want to expose me to. hearing this i got mad at my friend and everything i had bottled up flashed across my mind. her mother in pity for me said that if i wanted to we could go over my house for a few hours and when her mom would pick her up. i wanted to talk to her so i agreed and her mom drove the two of us home and then explained to my family about how things were going on at their house and they said that my friend could have a sleepover but at my house if my family and I would agree to have her over but how she went behind their backs and invited me over to their house instead and how because i had gotten my hopes up about being able to hand out with my friend if my family would let her that she could stay a few hours at my house and then get picked up and they agreed. when her mom left i was mad at my friend but i wanted to talk to her about how that was rude and unacceptable and disrespectful and very immature of her to do she laughed and said 'i'm actually very mature and i do respect my parents' i asked her how she respected her parents and she responded with "well i hug them and tell them i love then and when i go out shopping i buy them some things" when i told her that's not respect she just laughed some more like i didn't have a clue about what i was talking about. over the next few hours i tried to get it through to her that what she did was wrong but i wasn't getting anywhere with her it was like trying to move a brick wall with a feather, completely useless and pointless. she started to tell me stories about how one time she told her parents that she was going to the mall with one of her other friends but never said which one and then they started to walk around the city and didn't come back until after dark. and about how one time one of her friends invited her to go hiking up a local mountain with hiking trails and that she never asked her parents and permission but just got up and walked out the door and purposely left her phone behind and didn't come back until hours later. i had to tell myself then that she has just shown that she is not mature enough for a sleepover and that she is not a good role model and that she was a bad influence for me to be around so i told her to her face if she didn't grow up and start acting her age and improve her behavior i never wanted to hang out with her again and if she ever called for a sleepover again i would ask that she put her mother on the phone so i could ask to see if her attitude had improved right before her mom picked her up, and i also informed her mother of this information. she never called for a sleepover again. it was very hard for me to make this decision because we had been friends for almost 5 years, my second longest friendship ever, but ultimately i had to make the decision that she was no good for me to be around and that i had to let her go at least until she proved she was mature enough. my grandparents who knew the story thought i was stupid for 'holding a grudge' against her for this. my mom told me said it was ultimately my decision to make and that if my grandparents didn't agree with what decision i had made that i didn't have to listen to them but i could only if i wanted to and that they might not even know all the details of why i made my decision and that only i did and i had the right to choose who i was and was not friends with and for what reasons. i have held fast to my decision just as i would of even if my mom didn't tell me that, even if she agreed with my grandparents i would not have changed my decision. from this experience i realized just how much being respectful and kind especially to parents or guardians is an important thing to me and that it can be a deal breaker and it also helped me realize just how much i respect my mom for being able to raise me without my biological father around.

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Originally made October 19 this was my original draft and now I'm going to send it to my teacher and when she send me back to make some changes and tweaks it will be a new chapter

thank you for bothering to read this 

---------------Update October 22-------------------------

my teacher returned this to me with a 85/100

she had two notes for me on the document

One on the line "it was like trying to move a brick wall with a feather" and she said "I love this image!"

and then at the end she made a comment on it as a whole this is what she said "Phew! WOW! That is A LOT! So - let's sort this out a bit! I like that, in the end- what you really want to show is how important respect is to you. Right now, a great deal of this essay is centered around your friend. I want to know more about you!! Can you maybe tell me a little bit more about how you learned about respect? Why do you respect your mom so much for bringing you up alone? How has that taught you about respect? Where did you learn this really important trait? I think you can mention this incident, but it is more understandable to us once we know why respect is so important to you! Good start- you have some really nice language and wordings in here! :)"

so in Draft 2 i will try to make it more I/Me focused instead about her

see you in a day or two with Draft 2