I watching some YouTube like a regular person bc I do everyday activities

And I found this video from The Right Opinion about HIV and it's connection to the gay community. (I reccomend you go watch him) In this video he said something I never even thought.

"Being gay is not a choice, it's a realization."

This blew my mind. Not really but it made me think of how absolutely true that is.

There's all this fighting about whether it's a choice or biological but who really cares? You still realize that you're gay. You don't really choose it. We're not 100% to the point of research to really understand the science of it. But it's pretty damn clear that you realize that you're gay.

Look at every coming out story. They always say that they realized it.

Take myself for example. I come from a kinda super Christian household. I was never even exposed to the idea of homosexuality. But hell, I'm Pan-or well-Bi. Whatever I don't want to get too political. What I'm saying is that as a girl, who's never been exposed to this idea of being attracted to the same gender, I am attracted to girls. And I realized this, I didn't look at a girl and was like "ok I'm gay now". I came to a slow realization. The only one that was telling me I was gay was me.

Look at yourself or so someone you know who is gay or bi or whatever, they might say the same. They realized it.

This brings me to the exposure argument.

That someone chooses to be gay because they're continuously exposed to it. Which, I understand. Especially now, a lot of people are being exposed to the LGBT community. Before it was a hushed subject. Now, it's wide spread. And people can just about believe anything. But this argument only makes sense when people make up fake sexualities or just different names for a single sexuality like polysexuality basically being bisexuality or pansexuality.
Those are the people that just want to fit in somewhere. But being gay really isn't a choice.

I know it isn't.

It really is just a realization. You don't choose who you fall in love with after all.