This is kinda like a
self help/learning chapter

how to be perceived as charismatic:

• smirk when they don't get the joke right away to signalise that you are joking

• the fake walkoff: when someone makes an embarassing joke or something, walk off while trying to look as overly hurt as possible so they know you are just being funny

• tell funny embarassing stories
(->use a few go to stories from your past)

• make known that you know its embarassing

• initiate contact with the person you are talking to when laughing
(for example head on shoulder)

->not longer than 1-2 seconds and not only one to person if not intended as flirting
(knee, forearm, shoulder are safe friendzone areas)

• call attention to your awkward moments to make you seem more likeable

• exxagerate a lot
(We like each other -> We fell in love)
(I think you're smart -> You're a genius)

• make a fake narcissist joke
(for example in school when someone says they liked working with you, you reply: Well everybody does, of course. I mean its me duh)

• be natural/create autheticity when meeting new people

• compliment autheticity when you see it
(Example costume party: when someone has hand-made their costume very much like the original/you see that someone has put in a lot of effort)

• make people feel good about themselves around you

• show that you like who they are

• combine the compliment with a joke

• light teasing (jokingly)

• be playfully humble

• share the spotlight
(pass it on but not too quickly or you may seem shy and insecure)

• use a hook/twist in questions/sentences to build curiosity

• finish someones sentence with a joke if they take longer

->if they joke back take those bits and try to form a connection

how to tell a good captivating story:

• act out your characters

• pause when you hear laughter

• take a 3 second pause before you deliver the punch line

Maybe I'll add some tips every now and then if I collect more

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