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Many people find themselves in situations where they tolerate certain individuals and their behaviors, often without realizing the hidden costs of such acceptance. This tolerance can stem from a fear of losing relationships or the anxiety of being perceived as alone in the future. We might endure outrageous or disrespectful behaviors simply to maintain social connections, driven by a deeply ingrained fear of solitude and judgment from others. 

No one wants that. We need to be looking out for ourselves and our best interests. We can't be keeping certain people around because we're scared of being alone. Just because you have a fear of being alone doesn't mean you should compromise your well-being by accepting toxic behaviors. It is vital to establish and maintain clear boundaries—not just for your own emotional health, but for the integrity of any future relationships. Setting boundaries allows you to communicate to others that you are not simply a pawn to be manipulated in social situations; you are the queen on the chessboard, capable of moving freely in any direction and always able to put the king in "checkmate." 

Boundaries serve as a protective measure, helping you navigate interactions with clarity and confidence. This means standing firm against pressure to engage in activities that make you uncomfortable or compromise your values. When faced with such pressure, it's important to articulate your feelings openly. If someone persists in trying to push you into a situation or behavior you dislike, it is perfectly acceptable to assertively express your discomfort and firmly decline their advances. 

If these individuals respond with ridicule or dismissiveness, the best course of action is to remove yourself from the situation. By stepping away, you not only preserve your integrity, but also safeguard yourself from potential repercussions, whether those involve personal consequences or conflict with authority figures. 

Remember, there is absolutely nothing wrong with setting boundaries. These boundaries help you define your personal space and emotional limits, making it clear where you draw the line. If it becomes necessary, don't hesitate to keep certain people at a distance to protect your mental health and well-being. 

Always keep in mind that you are never truly alone. The right individuals who appreciate and respect your boundaries will find their way into your life. You don't need to tolerate unhealthy relationships to maintain a social circle. The key is to cultivate connections that uplift and support you, allowing you to flourish as your authentic self.

Keep those that drain you, hurt you, bring drama and negativity, and even toxicity at bay. You don't need that in your life and you certainly don't need it when you fear being alone. Sometimes people need to experience being alone for a little while to focus more on themselves anyway. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. So don't be afraid of being alone, embrace it and make this your opportunity to focus on yourself. 

The right people will walk into your life and stick around for a while, maybe even forever. Remember that.

With that here is the quote-

"I used to tolerate a lot because I didn't want to lose people.

Now I establish boundaries because I don't want to lose myself."

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Love,

~Rissi