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My dad is a child!
I was alway his mother!
Which if funny as my mother divorced him because she felt the same way!

When my parents got divorced I was six years old. My has been dad a shitty parent all these years. You see I cannot explain how much I had to grow up to make his life easier. I learned to repress any feeling other than serious/responsable ones when I was around him. I did everything I ever could to help him. I hadn't had a temper tantrum in two years. I rarely did any kid things except at school.

My whole life my dad has lied and manipulated to make himself seem like a victim. It's almost like he WANTS to be oppressed and hated to have a valid reason to whine about how tough it is to be a cisgender straight white man. He talks to relatives on the phone at night knowing that I can hear him saying lies about how terrible of kids he has and how we are just SO spoiled and bratty! How his ex wife is crazy and brainwashing his kids into...feminists!!!

You name it he complains about it! Here's a list I made for fun!!!

•His kids being kids and not fully grown adults
•His ex wife being the only one trying to finish this divorce agreement
•His ex wife wanting "millions" of dollars in the divorce
•Not being good at his job [farmer]
•Being "broke"
•His kids having phones
• LGBTQIA+ people
•People of colour
• People who aren't Christian
• Having to feed his kids
•Having to hire someone to look after his kids (only for a month btw) Because he's too petty to let his ex wife look after them while he's out for the day!
•Abortion rights
• Whenever swear words are used in songs, because in his words,"It'd be SUCH a good song if it didn't have swears"
•The Barbie movie
•Drag queens existing
•His kids not doing HIS job for him

This is the not even a quarter of the full thing.
Context: My mom didn't ask for millions, in fact she settled for SO much less than half.
My father every year tells my little brother that we're going broke. He just bought him a guitar.
He says me and my sister are phone addicts meanwhile he's an actual phone addict.
My mother has had to ask my father and spend thousands of dollars trying to get the most basic answers to things multiple times.
He acts like swearing ruins any song at all, except for when it's a song he likes.
He tries to get his kids to do parts of his job and guilt trips us for not doing it if we don't.
He thinks gay people are going to hell
He thinks trans people are just crazy/diseased and thinks it's going to bring communism into the world and destroy it.
He thinks drag queens are groomers... and evil
He shouldn't decide what a woman does with her body but he still tries to
He hates the Barbie movie despite never seeing it

Basically my whole life, I've been told nothing I ever do for him is good enough. My grandparents tell me all the time how I need to help out. So I did just that! I taught myself to cook, clean, I stayed home with the kids and took care of them (seven). I went outside and did his job. I kept the house running and the family running! I did as much as I possibly could at that YOUNG age. But it still wasn't enough, it'll never be enough. I was my own dad, and kinda my siblings too.

One day after we got home from a trip I hadn't even wanted to go to, my father had a phone call. I had just washed all the dishes, cleaned the table, swept the floors, and wiped the counters. The day before I cleaned the whole house and almost broke my arm trying to get his cows back in a field by myself. After fluffing the pillows on the couch, I heard him talk to my uncle and call me lazy.He looked me dead in the eyes and said it...

I almost broke down in tears. No matter what I do I'll always be a LAZY BRAT!!! No matter how hard I try It's not good enough. He can never take that back. So I stopped, I stopped doing everything I do.

He still doesn't see everything I did. The house is a wreck, the kids are unhinged, he's all alone with no help in HIS job. Everything is generally worse there. Still though he doesn't see everything I did.