TRIGGERS WILL INCULDE ⛔
Dysfunctional homelife/domestic violence x
Abuse x
Toxic relationships x
Brief mentions of substance abuse x
IF YOU CANNOT HANDLE SUCH TOPICS, SKIP THIS CHAPTER.

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Welp I feel like I need to scream.
I fucking hate people who romatize abuse.
No, have your fucking aph russia x beltics and shit. I don't care. I don't care what you fucking ship behind closed doors. Write fluffy one shots. Do that.

  But don't you fucking dare look me in the eyes that an x reader with Harry Styles hitting you and telling you you're worthless is nothing but a fucking relationship hurdle

Domestic violence isn't black and white. If you don't know how dysfunctional home life works then don't fucking write it. Don't make the "crazy ex girlfriend/boyfriend" fucking comicalnor played off as plot device. If you do domestic violence like this

-he came home and beated me senseless for literally no reason
-i forgave him because he was drunk
-he saw the pain in my eyes and apolgized and we made out

That's NOT how it works.
When you're in a relationship that is abusive like that, alcohol isn't an excuse. If you cannot handle alcohol like a mature adult then don't drink

Also we all forget the other aspects ie
-an extremely provoked, jealous girlfriend who spits on the boyfriend and the boyfriend may attack from bottled up anger
-a sociopathic boyfriend who locks a girlfriend in a relationship with empty threats and guilt tripping ("You'll never find love again" "You know I care babydoll, come on, let's go back to how we were, happy!")
-a controlling girlfriend who makes the boyfriend do whatever she says and locks him out of friendships and relationships and threatens to turn him into the police for false agitations of abuse/rape if he leaves

There's ways to do this right and handle it as it is. Domestic violence isn't always a one sided issue, either. Toxic relationships don't always have one sided issues and it may be because of different things
Person a cheating on person b and person b being controlling
Person b being violent due to persons a drug abuse/addiction
Person A suffering from a mental illness and person b handling it poorly

Also, people jusy sometimes don't work well with eachother. Personalities clash and that can lead to them both fighting constantly. People can love eachother and hate eachother at the same time which obviously isn't a good thing.

Love The Way You Lie by Eminem is honestly a fairly realistic view on the issue. It's not always one person being abused but rather mutal disrespect. The episode of Courage the Cowardly Dog, The Mask, accurately describes just how it goes and how to handle it. I coulf barely go through it because I could only think about my homelife watching it.

  It just hurts me so bad how people think this is okay. I've seen shit go down and it's not what people think. I know this is so petty and call me a complete Tumblr Faggot but I know how damaging this ideology can be

  Fiction can hurt reality. With boy bands come little girls and little girls reading these who are in abuse homes can see and think "wow, so when daddy hits mommy its ok because they always make up!"

It's just something I don't want other kids to view and witness. So if any of you are going through something like this, it isn't okay. Tell someone. You will not regret it and I am so proud of you for making it this far.