Anonymous #1 : I'm in Love

Hi. I'm a guy, and I'm in love with another guy. Yes.
And on top of me having to deal with all this stuff about liking the same gender, I also have to deal with the guy I love dating one of my closest friends. I'm trying to get over him, but it's not easy.
Ugh.
Why me?

Hi!

First of all, you sound like a really nice person (just because I've always thought that anyone who really loves someone is nice :D I'm sure you agree with me ;) ).

You might already know what I'm about to tell you, but I'm gonna reiterate it anyways :)

Being gay is totally okay. I'm sure you hear that from anyone you've come out to so far. And it's true.

The thing is, some people make such a big deal out of others having different sexualities - which is quite unnecessary. There's nothing wrong with being gay, of course.

This however, causes the people who are LGBT+ to feel bad about themselves, insecure even. So why is being gay such a big deal? Why are people being judged based on their sexuality?

One important thing that you must always remember, is that being gay is not who you are, it is a part of who you are. You are so much more!

Who you love does not define who you are alone - what truly defines you is what you love. Are you sporty, or nerdy? Do you like white chocolate or dark chocolate? Are you a cat person, or a dog person? It is all these little things that collectively make you who you are.

"It is our choices that show us who we truly are."
~Albus Dumbledore

So accept yourself for who you are.

Accept every little thing about yourself- because it is the good and the bad that make you who you are.

Everyone wants to be loved and accepted, but what we don't realise is that that can't happen unless we learn to love and accept ourselves first.

You should be the most important person in your life. (It sounds pretty selfish lol but it's completely true). Nobody knows you better than you do.

You know yourself better than anybody else. So accept yourself, and love yourself.

Come out to yourself. If you've already done it, then great :) If you haven't, then try it- it'll feel amazing :)

Just stand in front of a mirror, and look at yourself. Tell yourself that you accept yourself for who you are, and even if you could change anything about yourself, you wouldn't.

And always remember- you are blessed. Not everyone gets to be gay. Just 15% of all the people in the world are LGBT+ - the rest are straight -_- (how boring XD )

So before you start worrying about what others will think, start worrying about what you think of yourself. The most important opinion should be yours.

And if somebody you love doesn't love you back, so what?? There are 3 billion other guys in the world, and you will find the perfect one for you someday. It might seem like you love him more than anyone else right now, but know that there is someone else you love even more deep down. And you know who that is?

It's you.

Love yourself unconditionally. You are unique and special, and you will find someone as unique and special as you to love someday- just have faith :)

Always remember, you are special, and always loved by your friends, family, and us - who don't even know you, but are always here to support you whenever you need us :)

With lots of love,
A_B