I was smart enough to understand where things were going before they got there. Of course, I couldn't know anything for certain. But I did understand the likelihood of each possible outcome.

I confirmed my theories about love and life because I was able to see the end before it arrived.

This doesn't change the fact that I was caught off-guard. I may have understood how things were going, but I didn't want to watch.

I wanted to be with her, to create a life together. I wanted to start a family. I wanted -- and was ready -- to be the man, partner and lover that she had always wanted. But none of that mattered then nor now.

What matters is that I learned. I have a better, fuller understanding of things. Life's greatest tragedies can be life's greatest gifts -- only if we are wise enough to learn from them. Our beliefs define us and determine our future.

Learning to accept that the the person you love has fallen in love with someone else can teach you some of life's most important lessons.

If you don't confirm your beliefs then your beliefs must be wrong and therefore must be changed. The question is: do you have it in you to redefine your beliefs, to redefine what you think the purpose of all this is? Or will you join the masses and refuse to change, refuse to adapt, and sign away any chance of living a good and righteous life?