1. Distraction

This one isn't necessarily healthy, as more often than not you should confront whats bothering you. I usually do this because as of right now my mental state is extremely fragile since I've been keeping a lot of shit inside.

This is mostly out of fear, however, I am also not much of a crier. I don't cry often, so even when I am confident enough to speak out I can't get everything out because I subconsciously block what normal people use as a natural mechanism to relieve stress or other negative feelings/emotions. In case you didn't know what that mechanism is, its crying. Crying is a natural thing.

So, I use distractions. A fanfiction to read to put myself in a trance state; a good book; editing/drawing to get my mind off the feeling; etc,.

2. Questions/Subtle hints out

This can be a dangerous gamble, but usually questions don't rouse suspicion with my family. I ask them certain questions that for me to maybe get reassurance; without them knowing. I've done this a lot.

This is one example;

My mother was talking about something or another and said that she'd lose herself if anything happened to me or Aaron. I asked her a simple, innocent question. I don't quite remember what it was, but I believe it was something just reconfirming what she said. She said that we were her everything. I believe she was speaking about how she'd pick up a phone call from us if we called her, no matter what.

Later, rather bluntly, I asked her what sort of children she would want if she could have any. She apparently chose us. Whether thats for our good behavior or that she just loves us a lot, is unclear. Most likely both.

We're good kids.

As for the hints, that's what I do online. I give out subtle hints of whats bothering me.

3. Listen/read something nice

No, I'm not talking about funny videos/books. Those do the trick most of the time, but not for long. I seek out hurt/comfort. I like to imagine someone is giving me that comfort as well.

In a story I read about a week ago, Midoriya had disclosed the past. He was up late in the dorms and he went downstairs to get some water so he could sleep.

Inevitably, Mr. Aizawa had comforted him. As well as in tiktoks and things it's seen that Aizawa is a support beam for his students. Personally, no teacher of mine has cared for me to that extent.

However, I understand because a teacher shouldn't care for their students like that. A teacher should simply be one who guides their student(s) to their destination. They are not meant to befriend the student or care about certain problems.

Their personal problems should be talked about with a therapist or trusted friend/family member.

If they are being bullied or abused, then yeah obviously they would need to tell the teacher but that's because its serious.

That's what I've always thought...

So...

Why do so many teachers in books and movies care so much? And even see them as a friend or family. I don't get it.

I've befrienfed my teachers before, yeah, but its more of a friendly dynamic because I get my work done quickly and efficiently.

I don't get why teachers would care about their students as a friend or family member.

Eh.

Have a great day!
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