Okay. Be honest.

Whenever a new guy comes in (to your school or church or etc.), do you immediately start thinking about how cute he is, start crushing on him, and then start imagining scenarios where you're with him?

Then, a few hours, a few days, a few weeks, or even a few months later, he just seems 'meh' to you?

When we label guys as 'my crush' it just kind of... dehumanizes them, if you know what I mean.

Like, you're no longer seeing him for who he is, and you've given him this label that'll take a shred up who you are as well as what you would know him to be.  Like, you're basically objectifying them. 

(Ugh how do I elaborate and make this understandable?)

Well, when you label a guy as your crush, you are infatuated.

Infatuation (n.)

1. The state of being affected with folly or to inspire or possess with a foolish or unreasoning passion. 

2. Foolish or all-absorbing passion or an instance of this. 

When you are infatuated with someone, you do not and cannot understand that the person has flaws and is only a person. You begin to hold them in a place in your heart that should only be occupied by God. 

Furthermore, you're keeping (or at least attempting to keep) these feelings from the people you are close to. Problems occur when your family members and friends find out, or when your crush finds out and doesn't return the same feelings.

In my lifetime, there have been three or four boys that I have called my "crush". Each instance ended with my own misery and humiliation.

Since my last "crush" I've done my best to keep my feelings at bay and see those boys for what they are: just ordinary people. Even if I imagine silly scenarios, I manage to get my feet firmly grounded so I don't wind up getting myself hurt. I've stopped labeling boys that I know as "my crush" or anything like that, and just thinking of them as a friend or this guy that I like.

Believe me, you won't feel so embarrassed or secretive if you say "this guy that I like" instead of "my crush". Like, what's wrong with just liking someone? The word "crush" just stigmatizes it in a way that can (and probably will) end up getting you emotionally hurt. 

And, for those of you boy-crazy girls out there (*cough cough* I'm one *cough cough*), when you meet a new guy and you're starting to be like the Dark Kermit meme above you should give yoself a slap in the face and say, "WE NEED TO BE GOOD FRIENDS FIRST THE FRICK YOU THINKIN'"

A/N: This chapter's coming early because I'll be babysitting nearly all day tomorrow and when I'm not babysitting I'll be doing school work.