Ace Adventures

Today's topic is 'the legitimacy of your asexuality.'

Now before you get offended, remember that 1. I am asexual, and 2. I don't care about you, so step off my dick.

When I was in middle school (the horror, I know), I was still coming to terms with myself, and I stupidly let myself doubt my feelings.  I had been questioned so much about myself ('youre so handsome, how can you be asexual?' 'You seem so normal though...' 'Asexuality is just an excuse that ugly people use for not getting action') that I started to let it pick away at my confidence. 

"How can you be asexual if you've never had sex?"

"How do you know you don't like it if you don't try it?"

Now, I hope that you don't think less of me. I was a 14 year old boy in a world that insisted on sexualizing everything, and hiding it under prim and proper etiquette. I didn't know who I was, I didn't understand what I was.

There was this one kid that was so openly interested in boys, and yet still so masculine that people didn't even bother to question him, or bully him. (Now I am not saying that masculine gays are better, or anything of the sort).

I admired that, in a way.

Well, I approached him...

And well, you can guess what happened.

Afterwards, I knew for sure that I was asexual.

And now comes the lesson: 

Don't let the fuckers around you change the way you view yourself. Don't let yourself get pushed into things you don't want to do, just because you feel that you have to prove yourself.

Also, before anyone has an aneurism trying to send terrible vibes to the boy that screwed me, listen. He's not a bad guy (he's actually one of my friends now, and he hasn't told a soul). He didn't do anything wrong. If anything, I used him, so be mad at me instead.

All in all, you should also remember that this was, ultimately, my fault, in most ways. I didn't have to do it. I didn't have to 'prove myself', and I hope you learn from me and don't make the same mistake.

Also: asexuals can have sex!! If they are in a romantic relationship, or not, it does not mean that they're any less of an asexual if they are okay with having sex. It also doesn't make you any less of a person to not have sex.

Your favourite ace is out,

J