Inspired by R3aD5r thanks for accidentally helping out! 😜😂

We all have those moments when you want to sit in a corner and look around the room that's filled with people chatting amongst themselves. In this kind of moment, you wonder why humans exist and have some sort of edgy thought before putting it all behind you, and diving into that safe place in your mind.

Sometimes when we are in this mode, we aren't comfortable with talking, and much rather be alone. You feel in the mood to be with yourself, and maybe even do the following: Listen to music, read, write, watch TV, doing homework.

*Yell comes from back of class*

"Only nerds do homework for fun!"

Welp, nothing wrong with being a nerd.

For other people, well, they may finally realize that this feeling is with them all the time. This, my friends is called a "socially awkward butterfly. " Yes, to all those haters reading right now, I know what I'm saying, and DON'T try and correct me. It's a real thing.

Now I know what you're thinking, what the HECK is that!?

Well, ladies and gentlemen and everyone in between,  this concept is very self explanatory. Basically this means; you don't talk to people much and/or you don't want to. Talking to others makes you feel awkward. (Hence the name... see, it really does explain itself.)

Okay this was easy enough! That's it for today BYE!!!

I'm kidding! Awe, please come back.....

Take this cookie 🍪

Anyways, Some people aren't the chatty type, and much rather be alone or not be near people at all. This can be an effect of an event that's happened (making the person, not like people in general) or just a personal trait altogether. Whatever it is, these poor butterflies have no wings. (Some people like to be this way, so I won't say all of them are sad about this. *puts hands up in defeat* don't hate on me!)

We all have our moments when we don't feel like talking, but what happens when someone tries to initiate a conversation but gets shoved away? Dismissed if you will.

Now, I'm not saying this always happens on purpose, but these things do happen. Getting ignored, not being heard, and even getting cut off in a conversation can be just as bad as getting punched in the face.

I don't know about you, but when this happens to me I don't particularly feel welcomed or wanted, in that manner. I feel much more insecure, and want to stop talking altogether.

In this case, that person's mind starts racing. "What's wrong with me? Did I say something bad? Why am I not being heard? Do they not like me?" The person feels demotivated to speak out in general and usually doesn't act like their normal self. This can, later on, affect how they talk to people in general as well.

Thus, an awkward butterfly is born! This is usually how the transformation works. Some people are naturally like this and don't mind being this way, (rock on, for them!) Others were social before, and now have moved to the dark side of the force!

Now, this could also be a phase in your life, so don't jump to conclusions too fast. Again, there will always be multiple scenarios, and special cases to consider. I'm just explaining how one may feel.

Is this specific trait a bad thing? Well, depends on whom you ask. If that person wants to be socially awkward, and not make friends, then they may say no. (But it's always nice to have a friend or two.... just saying).

Others, however, will probably not answer (cause their socially awkward also seeking out might also be hard for them because they don't want to seem like a drama starter... yes this is a thing!) or say that they want to be a part of something, but keeping failing at connecting with people, and may get accused of not trying hard enough. There's only so much a person can do! Geez!

This worry in them will grow, and they will struggle to be involved like everyone else, but not feel like a member of the group. Again, this might not be purposeful (though it can in some situations) but now the real question is brought to the table; how do you change this behavior?

As a person who finds joy in the findings of solutions, I tried to piece all I know about this matter together to make on big conclusion. After thoroughly thinking this through, I've found a solution, and it's pretty simple! You do.......

Nothing.

This may sound bad, but bare with me! Nothing, in this case, isn't what you think!

You become social when you feel like being social, so mostly when you feel comfortable. The science (yes I'm adding science into this, so don't fall asleep!) behind being social is quite fascinating.

As humans, we are naturally social creatures, and when something doesn't abide by the "normal sociableness" that the average person has, it sticks out like a sore thumb. (Example: a group of people starts smoking one says "Sorry, I don't smoke." The group stops, and stares at them like they're some alien.)

This explains why socially awkward people get worried. They don't want to stick out, especially in a bad way. If easily embarrassed, this may make you more sensitive to those types of situations, making matters worse for you, and the odds of fitting in with everyone else get lower in your favor.

To those people in this situation, I'd like to formally say; Sorry, sometimes people don't know how to deal with different. Some people feel more comfortable than others when putting themselves out there. The best solution is to find people who do treat you like you matter because you really do! The main goal to become social (or more social) is to talk without feeling awkward and/or weird about it. (Easier said than done, I know). 

You could also talk to the group of people as well, to get closure. Talking it out always helps, and if they are good people then they'll understand, and help you the best they can to make you fit in more. The reality is though, that some people just don't mesh well together, and that's okay too!

"But wait Mickey what if-"

"Mickey, what happens when-"

"This doesn't make sense, gurl!"

WOAH! One at a time. I know you all have your own special scenarios, and situations on this matter, and you all assume I can solve them on the spot. But again, I only give tips on the matter at hand. If you have a specific question, please comment, and I'll see what I can do.

To sum this article up, being socially awkward is actually stressful, and can really ruin a person at times. But you can't let the actions of others bother you all the time.

Maybe you're just too different for people to understand! Or maybe there's just something unique about you! And hey, there's nothing wrong with that at all. Be yourself, and soon enough you'll attract others who appreciate you for you.

So, to all my anti-social pessimists, don't you fear. Your time will come, and then you'll finally have your wings to fly and socialize as you please. Sometimes it just takes faith and trust...

And pixie dust!

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Mickey's out!

*drops mic*