honestly, this mainly pertains to bts fics i read, but if someone said they don't want to be called something, or have something brought up bc it makes them feel uncomfortable, DON'T FUCKING DO IT

examples:

- ethan doesn't want the fergalicious video brought up again, he did it for april fools to try to get everyone to stfu abt it

- jin (bts) doesn't want to be called eomma or any other feminine words, he has said it makes him uncomfortable

- taehyung (bts) doesn't want to be called an alien or of a different species or anything bc it makes him feel bad for being so weird

seriously, respect your faves or don't be in the goddamn fandom