A note at the entrance of the library

Dear Random Stranger,

How do you prevent or cope with anxiously waiting for an answer from your crush?

I can't help it, and it feels really bad.

Please let me know under: 3rosToB3@xxx.

Yours,
3rosToB3

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Inbox of 3rosToB3

Message 1:

Hi 3ros,

I feel like we must have at least seen each other before because you're always where I am. You might have guessed it - it's Chem guy.

As previously mentioned, I am no expert on love questions, but I'd like to try... because I've experienced this unsettlednes.

I solved it by checking my socials twice a day at a fixed time. It reduces the constant checking, and I feel like I have more control over it.

Also, painting or reading makes me concentrate on something else.

Hope that helps.
Chem guy

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Message 2:

Hi dude,

Tell yourself you're a great person, and your worth does not depend on that reply from your crush. Also, everyone is quite busy. It's normal that replies might take a while.

Cheers.

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Message 3:

Hi 3rosToB3,

Am I your crush?
Jokes aside. I'm terribly bad at answering quickly. Maybe your crush is like that, too? Maybe let that person know about your feelings and that you would appreciate a quick and straightforward answer.

Best of luck.

Yours,
C.

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Message 4:

Hi 3ros,

It's the phil girl. I can recommend some great philosophy books to fill the time you're waiting and learn something new. Time passes quicker when you do something you actually find interesting.

Remember to decide whether you want to come to our club meetings.

Yours,
the part-time philosopher

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Message 5:

Bro,

Forget that person. If you're not worth a quick answer, then it's maybe not the right person. Is your crush ghosting you? Think about your mental health.

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Message 6:

3ros,

I'm sending you a virtual hug. Don't be too harsh towards yourself. I dont have a solution. I can just tell you that you're not alone. I'm also one of those people who waits anxiously for answers. I'm always telling myself that it's a sign that I'm not ready for a relationship because I'm too clingy. But actually, this bad feeling helped me to see what I am missing: nice free time activities and good friendships. That's what I'm working on now.

Best,
D.

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Message 7:

Dear 3rosToB3,

I am the head counsellor. It is a great first step that you are self-reflecting that behaviour. Should you be in need of a one-to-one coaching, do not hesitate to come to my bureau during the open counselling hour.

Best regards,
The head counsellor

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