Heyaa people!!!! It's your own aarushi6. A teen storyteller.
Since I am teenager myself , I am quite known to the problems faced by them. Let's talk about something related to the blooming age of teenages.

What's one of most common problem?

I have seen almost all the girls and boys of my class involved in relationships at the tender age.

They call it love.
Is it love? Or not?
Let's discuss about it.

Teenagers undergo drastic changes, physically and mentally. The development of secondary sexual characteristics and more secretion of hormones mess our mind badly. We start to feel over-concious about it, about our appearance, our voice,etc.

At the same time, we start to get curious about the opposite sex. At this tender age, infatuation is quick to grip our soft hearts.

There is nothing wrong in infatuating, it's alright because it's the age to do that.

It is the first wave in our life where we get a very tiny glimpse of what love is like.

We have some identity and celebrity crushes, the persons we admire and fantasies about but most likely they are out of our reach. Identity and Celebrity crushes fades away after a time.

But what about Romantic crushes. Hmmmm, now don't tell me that you didn't get that giddy feeling and stupid smile on your face whenever you see or think about someone you have seen closely. A friend, neighbor, classmate, or anyone.

As I said it's okay and natural to have feelings but what's not okay is our activity in this matter.

In this generation, 21st century I am talking about. Being in a relationship in our social circle has become a new trend, a meter to measure our coolness.

Are you in the same condition, if yes then you still have time to come out from this honey trap. Why?

Because-

1.Frustration-
Frustration, the feeling you will feel within the months of being in relationship. You feel hollowness inside you because of your lack of productivity.

2.Time taking-
This immature relationship takes a very ample division of your productive time. The time you can use to step closer to your dream will be wasted easily in talking with you bae.

3.Contracting social life-
You agree or not, friends are stress busters. A refreshment in our daily boring life. And so does parents, just a small talk with them, you feel rejuvenated. After being in relationship, you somehow starts ignoring them. You just prioritise just that person. And that's not good babe.

If you are feeling same, then I must warn you. Don't do this shits-

1.Don't be a pet-
Don't be that girl or boy who does everything their partner is saying. Don't overwork yourself for completing their project or homework in hope that your crush will fall for you. Don't spend the money of your parents, if you want to then learn to earn it on your own first.
You have a damn life, live freely.

2.Don't misunderstood the feelings-
As I said, teenagers are most likely to feel attraction or string infatuation in this age. Don't misunderstood it for love. You don't understand love at this age, love involves the feelings of whole another level.

3.Don't be a blind follower of stupid trend-
You want to look cool in your circle by having your own girl or boy in your arms? Like seriously? Don't degrade the word 'Love', please. Improve your mindset, if you want to be cool then be cool be becoming successful in future. Be a definition of smartness by the story of your life.

4.Never give someone power to hurt you-
Attachment to these level with a person based on your this spontaneous feelings won't pay good results. Don't be too much attached, set your limits, it will be very beneficial.

5.Dont be a player-
Often few boys and girls give green signal to many person at same time. Their thinking be like: If that person accepts then it is good. Otherwise I don't have anything to loose.

Dude!!! You do. You have many things to loose,to start with your mental peace, your self respect, your reputation, you time and the list goes on.

And now what to do if you want to come out of this sweet honey trap? Worries not, I got your back buddy.

1.Set your goals-
We have goals in every phase of life. Sometimes to score a good marks, sometimes to go somewhere, sometimes to become Someone. Yeah, to do something which will bring you respect and money in life. Just do that and that time your girl and boy will willingly be yours.

2.Heartbrokens, use your pain-
So your bae broke up with you telling you that you are not good enough or something like that, Right?
Then take your revenge. I am not talking about hurting that person. Nope, if you are thinking like that then leave from here. You didn't loved that person ever.
Heartbrokens have double advantages. First, life gave you another chance by pulling you out from the pit and second, you have pain. Don't move on like people say. Collect your pain and use it as your fuel. It will help you in darkest hours, pushing towards your goals.

3.Encourage yourself-
You want to reach at some level in future, Right? Then do one thing. Choose your best formal picture just like how you picturise yourself in future and just beneath it write something like this Hello, I am XYZ, a writer.
Keep it on your study table or inside your diary.

Every morning, look at it and say it to yourself aloud.
"I am the nature,I am the power,I am the whole universe. I can do anything. My all deeds will benefit the humankind"
It will help surely.

4.Love yourself-
Why looking for others when you are enough for yourself. Remember, you can't love anyone else untill you learn to love yourself first. Pamper yourself, cook something you like, listen music and think about your life. Do what you love.

5. 5-50 years technique-
You see, 5 years. The two years if higher secondary school and then years of your bachelors. Average 5 years untill you graduate, maintain a strict self control over yourself along with hardwork. Just do this and secure your life.
Remember ,
Struggle of 5 years= fun of 50 years.

One bonus advice:
Communication is the key and medicine. Teenages must talk it all out with someone. Try to do it with your parents along with friends.
Don't think like parents won't understand you, they were also teens once.
At evening  I blabber everything out in front of my mum and papa, I don't care if they listen or not.

Wait for it, Love will happen for sure but on a proper time. ♥

I hope it was beneficial for you, these are something suggested by counsellors.

if it does then comment down something or anything. It will motivate us.

See you soon. 😘