This is a small message I, wanted to share with all of you. The inspiration to write this and let you know what I'm going to tell further came because of the reactions on the alleged suicide of Bollywood actor Mr. Sushant Singh Rajput. He was one of my favourites and I shall always remember him for his childlike smile and heart. But today in this book which is a tribute to him in going to talk of something that erupted because of his alleged suicide.

I'm here to speak about something that we all saw for the past 5-6 days. Almost everyone in social media started talking about the importance of sharing problems. After reading about many strikingly similar posts and the reactions on them, I was amused. Every post read saying, "You can count on me to be a listener to your problems. I'll help you solve them too".

It was very sweet of people to say this. Some of them said this is a wake-up call, some messaged asking me my well being when they practically don't care the other times (some close ones whom I know don't give a damn for me).

IT'S HIGH TIME WE STOP THIS SHIT.

To all of them who have posted I'm there for you, how many us mean it? 95% of is don't even reply to messages or calls immediately, the rest 5% isn't on SNS. Even if you guys genuinely mean it, trust me it's impossible for us to understand someone's problems and give solutions to it from the POV for the experience of the problem.

I'll give you all a reality check today. WE ARE ALONE. There is no one for us. All of us including me have come alone and will go alone. The only one who is there for us, with us is the EXISTENCE. Theists call it god/godliness, Atheists call it nature/existence. So, it's high time we stop giving people hope. Instead, we can share defense mechanisms.

I'm here to share mine.

The major reason for suicide is the unacceptability of failure. We are trained to only handle success and not failures. The moment we come across failure, we lose hope, we slip into depression and finally kick the bucket.

But, that's not how life should work. Remain detached. Detached to both success and failure, taunts and praises. Say a thank you for the praises, a thank you for the taunts. Celebrate failures and celebrate success. When we balance, we're better.

Suicide isn't the solution. Let me quote a few lines of OSHO's speech of Be Still and Know:

"Destroying the body is not going to help; you will be immediately born again somewhere in some other womb. It will only be renewing the body; it is not real suicide."

I have been painted in colours of humiliation by people. I'll share with you a small experience.

When I was in school, my friends would tease me for being good in English. Even till today I, generally speak more English. I'm comfortable and that's the way I was brought up by my parents. My friends would say, "Stop overacting". I would be clueless as to why they would say this. They would tease me calling me an English topper. I speak a lot and have this habit of detailing a lot of things while I speak of a topic. Every time I did that, my friends called me a lecturer. It was for fun for the first few days but later, I knew they didn't like me doing it. I never had many true friends in school or even in life for that matter. I've a handful of people whom I can call mine.

I don't have any other talents like singing and dancing because I never liked all that. Once my cousins made fun of me. They would call me names, thanks to not having a similar talent to theirs, and also having a family pack (a tummy). Even my classmates would make fun of me.

Today I'm a writer on Wattpad with 6k+ readers. And guess what made me one? The teasing. I realized my potential and fine-tuned it. I neither slipped into depression nor did I seek people to listen to me. I remained detached. Detached to all of that.

I meditate. I tell out all my miseries to the almighty. Once I feel light, I automatically start thinking about how to solve my problems.

I never had friends to 7th grade. People taking advantage of me had made me rude and my own classmates never liked me. Even till today, they never call me for anything. Only 2-3 people care and they're enough for me.

Even though these 2-3 are there in my life, I've never told out my problems much to them. Because they will be mere witnesses to my problems.

Remember guys, in the court of law, a witness is considered very vital because that person is detached to the situation. So are your listeners. They are detached to your problems and sometimes give you solutions but, that will not be out of the experience. Instead of going and telling our problems to others, let's be detached from it. Let's become witnesses and no sooner, we'll find solutions to it.

Take care, Good luck!!

Love,
satchitanandini
(REVIEWER/ORIGINATOR, FMC)

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I know what you people are feeling.

Some might be confused, saying "Ki what is literally going on in this book, one side Amaya is saying come and share your pain and on another side, Satchita is saying try handling yourself on your own.

While others might agree with Satchita and some might do not.

Right?

Right.

Okay so starting with confuse people, will make their heart at ease first.

So the main motive of mine behind this book was, for the people to share their pain, their stories to motivate others, their defense mechanism to cope up with the problems, stress, and anxiety.

In this book, you'll find different people with different opinions speaking their hearts out.

The bad situation comes in everyone's life. and that may make you rude may compel you to stop trusting on the Almighty may force you stone-hearted and some like me opt for both smiling at the stranger and also behaving rudely when needed.

Now what Satchita said about not sharing your pain with others, agreed. Some of you don't like to show their vulnerable side to others. ts their way of dealing with their situations, it's their defense mechanism.

Every single person has his or her own defense mechanism to fight their situation, some succeed in bringing their stronger self out some don't.

And for them, we will be sharing some defense mechanism technics, that how can you help yourself to keep your heart and soul at ease and the best part is this will also be for the people who don't want to talk to others or don't want to show their vulnerabilities to others.

The technics which you can apply and experiment if it's helping you, if no, jump on the other option, try- try till you succeed huh?!

The main motive is to make you happy. We don't want you to come and share your heart out with only.

No! Nope! Nada! Zilch!

You can come here and enjoy with us, smile with us, share your moments with us, make others laugh, do anything (not illegal though) just don't die.

But also, leave the life you deserve, you want, the life you desire to live.

Make it worth living for yourself.

For the people who disagree with the above content, I understand where you are coming from very well.

Because I'm the only who pester people to talk, even if you talk shit, blabber, rant, curse, yell or whatever it is, but just take out what is stored inside your heart and when its in front of the person who doesn't judge you its pineapple pieces on the cake. I like pineapple, so yeah!

Which your favourite?

Coming back to the topic.

so where was I?

oh yes.. speak your heart out, to your parents, siblings, friends, your trusted one even if it is your school college's peon, but all of us aren't that lucky to have that "someone" to talk to whenever we want whenever we desire and we don't like talking to ourselves or we don't believe in god, what about them?

Hence we are here to listen to you without interruption, that's important!

Listening to someone without interruption, moreover, you can share your miseries, talk about what you feel like to the stranger more comfortable without thinking what he /she will think about me, without the fear of being judged.

Now, why do I do that? Why do I go blaring my throat to make people understand that speaking is important?

For one if you believe it or not, speaking whatever you feel like is always and always helps you, as Satchita also stated above she speaks to Almighty shares whatever is there in her heart to him/her/them.

But sometimes there is a void in our heart knowing there is no single p[erson sitting in front of you, listening to you with an encouraging smile.

I used to the same until Cb or lolo came into my life. I used to speak to myself looking at the mirror (Not psychotic at all. It helps) I still do, not all the things I can go and share it to her for obvious reasons. And I used to and still get solutions to my problems from my inner self which I would like to belive Allah is helping me.

But..... there is always a but!

But I always had that void in my heart knowing I ain't talking to a real person, I always used to say this sentence ki

"Allah kash app real mei yaha hotein, mere samne mujhse baatein kar rahe hotein naa ki mann mei, fir kitna maza aata"

You get my point? You can speak to the almighty but at the same point, you always carve for some real person and want them to listen to your rants without judging you, and when I share my feelings with them, I feel happy after talking to them on content knowing that there is someone there sitting in real and listening, hearing to my shit!

Now sharing your pain with yourself, your trusted or strangers is completely your choice, but again I want to repeat the same do anything but just don't die!

And we FMCians will try our level best to make people happy, make you people smile, make you people laugh.

Last but not least both the options are true and correct in their own place and you are the one who has to make the choices.

But I disagree on one point where it was mentioned that try handling yourself on your own. It's your own battle of survival I agree, but you need.... you need someone to support you when you go wrong when you face failure when you feel like you want to cry on someone's shoulder. You came alone in this world right, but with your parent's help and you'll go alone but you'll be needing four shoulders help to even get buried or get burned.

The battle is purs but we do need help to win that battle, so we aren't alone because alone we are nothing, we just need to make the right choices of people in our life. I agree sometimes we fail to recognize the true people but after having the burnt food once we don't leave eating instead we become more careful while cooking, same, you need the right choices in your life.

Because everyone deserves to be happy and have the right to choose their own happiness.

Amaya ❤

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