Okay.

Homophobia is not a real thing. As in, people who say they are "homophobic" are using as a blanket term. In reality, they are fucking jerks. If you say you are homophobic, no, you are not. You just refuse to accept simple facts, and that just makes you a jerk. I know that we call people homophobic because there are no other terms to describe it, but look, homoPHOBIA. I know for a FACT that that isn't a phobia a lot of people have. Yeah, there might be a medically diagnosable phobia out there but any person who is just ignorant towards LGBT+ automatically get called homophobic. We need a new term for it because I know people aren't literally afraid of us.

Also, who is  scaring who? I was so terrified to come out to some of my close friends because, holy shit, what if I was outed? I would NOT have survived high-school if they had left me after telling them (through email because I'm a coward) I'm bi. I'm still scared about if my parents are going to find out that their daughter is bi. I asked my dad why people are homophobic because I thought about coming out to them and he went on a rant about how it was not normal and weird. One of his strangest reasons was, "it was unfair". What was so unfair about being able to love someone? I knew from then on that I could never come out.

My sister found out I was bi. She wasn't really happy about it, but at least she wasn't that bad. The stuff she said did hurt though, like "You are too young to identify your feelings". If straight kids can realise they like the opposite gender, why do queer kids have to wait until they're older to identify? That's not how it should work, because that is extremely hypocritical. Also, "I have a TON of gay friends." that's great, sis. Why the fuck are you judging me for being bi, then? Shouldn't you know, from your supposed "TON" of gay friends that they had felt those feelings when they were younger?

People who identify as anything other than straight can't change who they are. It's legitimately their brain that goes, "Yeah, this person is cute" or  "I don't really think of this person that way". They can't choose their feelings, they can only choose to accept themselves. My old health teacher said, "Don't bully someone for something they can't change." when he was talking about the LGBT+ community, and I'm gonna stay with that quote, 'cuz it's fucking true. Don't look down on me for liking boys and girls, I am just as human as you.

I CAN'T CHANGE WHO I AM, BELIEVE ME, I'VE TRIED. 

I've tried to believe I was straight. Especially in high school. God, I dreaded high school. I was like to my friends, "They are all gonna judge me, no one would be accepting." I thought I was going to get eaten alive. I forced myself to repeat, "I'm straight" over and over and over every night, hoping that that would change me. I tried to block out any emotions for girls that were not "normal". I was basically discriminating against myself and my feelings. But, I found people who didn't mind my queerness, and I'm so thankful for that. 

I want to live in a world that I am treated equally. I refuse to live in a world where people fight over stupid issues that shouldn't even exist. I want to have someone to be with without being in fear of how stupidly judgemental people could be. 

SIDE NOTE: You can still be straight and support the community, by the way. It isn't like a game, there are no teams. If you are straight, you are not automatically "homophobic". You can be an ally, and you are so welcomed as part of the community. If you are an ally, thank you so much for supporting and helping us.

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I hope that you have a fine day or a fine night wherever you are. Just remember, I accept you for who you are, and that if you identify as queer, you are whole-heartedly welcomed into the community!

-JustAnotherTem

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