Emotional abuse:

I have spent all my life with him and I am now 23, still living with my Step Dad.

I thought he is a very good man for my mom. he took care of us, making sure we re healthy, properly clothed, pets properly taking care of. So I thought normal dad stuff. So.. back when I was little, he made sure we always do our chores, but then somehow we re always getting grounded for something, and have to read when we did. Got grounded so many times,so I wasn't quite sure anymore if we are grounded. So I grounded myself from watching TV a whole month, then later I wasn't interested in it.

So the next time he grounded me, I did not care, and got him even mad. and when he is mad at you, he will slam doors. In the summer time, my sister and I aren't allowed to sleep in. Like what are we supposed to be doing. chores. There is plenty of time to do it, but it gets done. he is always anal about cleaning. And whenever we do something bad, or a terrible mistake, he is, "If that happens again, You will be punished for it, or it will cost you".

If he gets mad at you he will say I'm Ignorant, cold, Ignorant B*t*h. The last time with my sister this week he said, "if you don't do the kitty litter properly, then all the kitty litter will be dumped on you're bed".

Also when he gets mad at whole, he said he will not talk to you at all, and then it becomes days to a week without talking. Every time I pet my cat or play with her, he said I have a mean-streak in animals.

I told him how? because the cat I loved, she is my best friend. Some nights she will sleep with me , when I call her she only comes to me. :3 So I don't know how that works? and the Beta fish I have now he is 2 and a half years old now. so really how am I a mean streak kind of person with animals??

Last month on February 17, on a Tuesday. I wanted to go out with my friend and her mom to a movie, he said, No! I cannot go out until all chores are done. Like we always do chores on the weekends, its part of the routine, why now?? and at age 23 yrs old.

Also I felt like I m not allowed to go to School, volunteering or work at all. I was thinking of straighten it out with the College about quitting my work term, but that means of dropping out of the program cuz of my Dad.

On feb 4/ 2015, I went downstairs to finish up my laundry, putting it in the dryer, Dad came up with me, and asked if I ate supper, and I said not yet, then he said if laundry is done, I said no, not yet, then he says if all laundry not done, I cannot volunteer at all on that day. like really.

My sister had her clothes on the floor too, then he says to her, "If she doesn't get her laundry done, then she cannot go to work. So I felt that he is stopping us from doing things we wanted to do.

On Dec 30th/ 2014 My dad saw my mocha siting on the side of my headboard, and it was empty. he said "get rid of it". But I have other things around it too, so I wasn't quite sure. So I reorganized it, 5 minutes later he came back, mad as hell and took away my mug, So I got defensive, and said "You know I am patient" and he said" I am impatient, and with that attitude you will suffer". and he left to clean it.

So I had an anxiety attack, if I should suffer, and quit everything I ve done fro years, like school, work and volunteering.

There are times he said "What stays in this family, stays in this family!, Like what are you hiding? or my House, my rules, don't like it. leave. might as well, since my sister and I pay for the house and the other bills from our aish money, and he has our aish money, and my student loan too. So I changed my account for my student loans, cuz he had it in his bank account, only him to get at it. so I changed it. soo yes! you know how things are going, and the police were called twice about it.

But my sister and I are strong! We were thinking of leaving him after College once we re ready and know what to do. and learn about paying bills. >.< There are other times he is good, but there are times he is not. and I do love him, but I need to do something to make him realize that this is wrong.

One of the replies to this survivor:

xxx, is there student housing where you live? It's time to move out. It will be hard, but living with the chaos every day, not knowing what will set him off, controlling everything, is not good for you o your sister. You are strong and deserve better. You have to stand up and show him you will not be treated that way any more.

We are hoping she found help and was able to move out. Prayers and well wishes are with her.

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Taken from the internet, where they've written a public testimony or shared their experience. Real names won't be revealed even though the survivors are public about it. We are sharing this only because if you are in a similar situation, it could be a wake up call to you.