How do you define a beautiful woman? How many people are around you that you call beautiful? What does beauty mean at all?

Well we all had came from different cities, countries and there so different cultures and for the exact same reason we all have a different definition of beauty. Our definitions can even change based on what kind of family we had came from, our personality differences and standards and even based on the job and the education we had. The exact same thing goes on about the body type we refer to as the perfect one. But the question is are our standards should be the thing we measure people's beauty and perfection with?

Let's say we all have exact same definition of beauty. Imagine a world which everyone exactly looks like that. How would that be? It would be awful; right? We would get tired of the exact same standards of beauty we used to appreciate once. So why we should torture each other and ourselves with those definitions? Why we should call someone beautiful and the other one ugly? Some one hot and the other one looser? Our faces and bodies are a mixture of flaws and perfections. I'm sure each one of us have a part in our body that we don't like and a part we love. Even celebrities with all those expensive surgeries are not perfect so why should we expect ourselves to be? The thing that does matter is that we have to learn to accept every single part of us and love them. That's when even your flaws will seem beautiful. If you accept your flaws you'll feel more confident and if you feel more confident you'll seem more attractive. Everyone likes powerful people and if you be confident you'll seem powerful. You'll show everyone that you have the control of your own mind and life and no one can effect you with their stupid thoughts and believe me as much as a powerful guy seems hot to us a powerful girl seems hot to guys as well. Our differences are what makes us pretty and interesting. Cause if we didn't had those differences we would be all the same.

But how we can love our flaws? Well first of all take a paper and a pen and write down what you find attractive and what unattractive in yourself. Then write down in front of each that which one you yourself don't like and which one society had pressured you to don't. You'll surprisingly find out that most of those flaws are not really flaws but society's stupid standards, so why you should torture yourself mentally just because someone says they're not attractive while you deep down know that they are? About the one that you don't really like yourself see if you can change it. Like if you have few extra pounds that you yourself hate; start exercising and change your diet but always remember your health is the most important thing so don't put it in danger with non realistic diets. If it's in your face search if you can make it more beautiful using make up products. If it's not a thing you can change accept it as a part of yourself, as a part of your identity and you'll see how much prettier you'll feel.

I had seen girls trying to change the way they look by surgeries and other stuff just to attract guys or even girls. The other way happens too. There are guys who do surgeries to attract girls and guys; but as I had said before we are gonna talk about girls in this book. I don't say doing surgery is bad. If it's what makes you happy and helps you feel more beautiful go for it but if you are just doing it cause looking that way is a trend, or your crush's exes (Specially among teens) looked like that I hope you be wiser and don't do it.

Some people believe the paler you look, more beautiful you are. But some people like tanner. Some people like white people, some other like Latino, some other prefer Asian, black or other races. No one has the same taste and if someone doesn't like you just because of the way you look and can't see the beauty inside you be sure that s/he doesn't deserve you so say screw them and get as far as possible from that person instead of changing your looks to the way that that person likes. Surround yourself with people who make you feel loved and beautiful cause you are the most important person in your life and your own feelings should be your first priority. Don't give attention to bullies cause they're just a bunch of crazy mentally ill bitches. Would you believe what a lunatic says? Of course not. Bullies have no difference from them, they're just not in mental hospitals yet.

Enjoy your life and start accepting yourself the way you are.

There a group of feminists who believe if you want to be a feminist you shouldn't wear makeup and don't put on sexy clothes. They mostly wear masculine clothes and behave like men. That's one of the reasons I can't call myself a feminist. I love make up and I don't mind wearing a ton of it cause it makes me feel more confident and better about myself. I love wearing sexy clothes. Why I shouldn't show off some more skin if I enjoy the feeling it gives me?  So don't let those toxic words make you feel bad about yourself. If you like make up put it on. If you don't well don't wear it. Wear what makes you feel good. Wear the things you like and don't let judgments effect your happiness. Accept your body, your face and sexuality and enjoy it. Cause we don't live twice to live based on other peoples likes and dislikes.

I had put a YouTube video on the media part of this chapter. You'll see huge differences between the definitions of beauty around the world. So if there's that much of a difference even between the countries that are so close to each other why we should try to fit ourselves in just one specific standard? Screw the taboos and be yourself. You are the owner of your body and you have to decide what to do with it. (Of course after you turn 18.)

My story:

As a girl born in a little town I suffered many years of my life with the stupid standards of the society. Even though my parents always called me pretty and cute but it's impossible to don't see the people around you. All of my uncles girlfriends were pale, almost tall and had lighter hair and eyes, small boobs and slender body. But I had darker skin, average height and I had grown boobs since I was nine. I still remember the day one of my cousins told me to stop growing boobs cause the bigger your boobs get you'll seem uglier and fatter. (Like I had the control of it!) That no matter how thin my waist be I'll still look chubby. I cried my eyes out that night and God knows how much I prayed and begged God to don't let my boobs grow any more. I started hating myself more and more day by day till I decided to put my focus on being successful in my studies. Well that turned out good for me. I reached my dreams, but the mental wound it left in my heart never left me. I considered myself as ugly as a pumpkin till I grew older and started meeting guys and well that was the time I found out I'm beautiful. That was the time that I found out my tan skin, my tininess and my brown hairs are really attractive for some guys. I met tall guys who loved my height. They said it made me look more feminine and cute. I realized my boobs are not only a turn off but a huge turn on for some guys. I learned to love my sexuality, my face and my body as I grew older and now I'm accepting who I am. There are still some people who tell me I'm small; ask why I hadn't done something about it and stuff like that but I just laugh at their face and tell them to fuck off I love how I am in my heart and leave them without saying a word. I whished I had an older sister to tell me all the things I had written here in this chapter when I was a little girl but I didn't. So I write this chapter to be that older sister for the girls younger than me who struggle with this problem every day and that younger sister to all the older girls that hadn't learned to accept who they are yet. To tell them you're not alone and many girls have the same challenges in their life. The most important thing is the beauty inside you. That's when the beauty outside you will show up too.

Your words:

Here is the part that I'm going to write your struggles and story. I had gotten the permission to share the names, but still if you don't feel comfortable with your name up here; let me know and I'll immediately turn it in to anonymous.

DangerUntold says: "I used to compare myself to other girls a lot. My mother was the kind of person to say that I didn't need makeup, and that she would never let me wear short shorts. At first, I disliked the idea. After all, all the girls wore makeup and showed off everything they had, why couldn't I?

As I grew older, I realized why she said these things. I don't need make up. I can go out and be just as naturally pretty as the same girls who cake it on for something as simple as grocery shopping. I can go out and be sexy without feeling the need to wear short clothing.

That's when I started to feel at peace with myself. When I started to feel powerful as a woman. I may not be the most secure person, but I've taken a step in the right direction. Because beauty shouldn't have to be all about makeup and body. Love shouldn't be lust.

I am powerful, and I can finally be at peace with this part of myself."

poeticcaos says: "Well I don't like to accept that I have hated my body. It was a few months ago when I was obsessed with all that girls from Instagram with "perfect bodies". But now have realized they aren't perfect because they all are unique and beautiful. Yes, I have scars, cellulitis, stretch marks and etc. but I accept myself. I have to confess that I still have bad thoughts about my body and I don't feel 100% comfortable with it, but I always try to destroy that thoughts as soon as they come in to my head. Cause it's not fair to listen to the things that society had made me to believe how I have to be. I just have to be happy, like everybody. And when you realize that, you take the first step to learn how to love yourself."

CrazyLifeReading says: "In my opinion beauty is something that represents your personality. No matter how you look from the outside if you don't be beautiful inside, there would be no beauty around you. About body type, you should be just yourself, no matter what your body type is, if you are comfortable in it, wear it.

About my personal experience, I have this shimmery blue woolen jacket with colorful work on it and I really loved it. But, when I showed it to my ex-bestfriend she said that it was ugly and I would look like shit if I wore it. So, I never wore it anywhere till the time that we kind of broke up. I wore the exact same jacket for my first day in my new job and guess what? I effing slayed it, (my co-worker said that). So my point is no matter what others say, just wear whatever you want. If you like it, you own it."

AghataRoza says: "When I was in high school I was called "the wall" because I didn't wear push up bra and I didn't have huge boobs. One of my friends, who has very huge boobs got the "Tsunade" nickname from Naruto."

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