I HAVE SOMETHING I WOULD LIKE TO SAY THAT IVE BEEN MEANING TO SAY FOR A WHILE NOW. OKAY. LOOK AT THIS.

List of celebrities I find attractive:

Lee Pace

David Tennant

Orlando Bloom

Benedict Cumberbatch

Tom Hiddleston

And others like this

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List of celebrities my friend finds attractive:

Zayn Malik

Ansel Elgort

Channing Tatum

Every guy in the band R5 (she likes their music, even if they are A BIT young for our age ;P)

And others like this

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SO, WHAT I WOULD LIKE TO SAY IS THIS: Please please PLEASE do not do this:

Person 1: Hey, so what celebrities do you like?

Person 2:Uh, I sort of like Tom Hiddleston....

Person 1: I don't see how you can find that attractive. His face is just so weird. And he just is creepy, and so....OMG HE IS SO OLD. WHAT THE HECK? How could you like someone so OLD?

Right. Everyone finds different things attractive. That's part of what makes us humans. So don't go criticizing someone about the celebrities they like because 1) it doesn't matter all that much but 2) it sometimes does lower a person's esteem and 3) why do they have to conform to your ideas but not you to theirs?

The same goes for yourselves. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and DONT LET ANYONE EVER TELL YOU THAT YOU ARENT. I did a research project on how warped standards of beauty are, and the basic result was that beauty is so differently defined in every generation that nothing is really "more attractive" than anything else. I know that sounds MESSED UP but just think about it. In the Renaissance period, it was very attractive for girls to be chubbier because it meant they had enough money to have regular meals. Now it's attractive for women to be stick skinny and just AHHHH IT MAKES ME SO ANGRY.

And I'm not saying skinny people make me angry, everyone is beautiful and I love you all <3 (although I am a bit jealous ;P)

It's just that I have very low self esteem, and I TRY to convince myself I'm pretty, I TRY to be self confident, but how can I when basically the entire society is telling me I'm not quite good enough. I love my body, the fact that it works and moves and functions correctly, I just get mad at other people who tell me it's not good enough for them. My waist isn't small enough. My face should thin down. My hair is too frizzy. My teeth aren't straight. My thighs are fat.
"Be confident in yourself" is what people are always saying, but how could I possibly do that when every bite I take reminds me that I want to be thin? When every pair of pants I try on reminds me that they don't quite fit?

BUT THE CRAZY THING IS, THERES THIS GUY WHO LIKES ME A LOT. AND IM NOT ALWAYS QUITE SURE HOW, BUT HE DOES. AND THAT HAS MADE ME A BIT MORE CONFIDENT BECAUSE GUESS WHAT? JUST BECAUSE I DONT THINK IM ATTRACTIVE (PHYSICALLY OR OTHERWISE) DOESNT MEAN THAT NO ONE ELSE DOES.

Really, here's the main point. DONT JUDGE OTHER PEOPLE FOR WHAT THEY FIND ATTRACTIVE, AND KNOW THAT THERES ALWAYS SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO WILL FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE, EVEN IF OU CANT SEE IT (though you should, because you all seem awesome. Seriously. I would love to be irl friends with all of you :D)

I have a lot of feelings okay I'm going to sleep now this is why I shouldn't think before I sleep alright bye love you all yay