"My friend told me some things that makes me wonder if she's really my friend. What are things I should look for to know she's a real friend?"

 Sometimes things friends do are questionable. I have a couple of friends that aren't so reliable on certain things, but you know they'll be there for you when you get hurt. Here are things I look for in a friend:

 Loyalty. Ok, she doesn't have to be your loyal servant, but she has to be someone who can keep your secrets when you don't want to reveal them. You want to make sure you can trust them. A true friend would understand why you want to keep it a secret and will subtly help you get the guy you like (ok that last section doesn't have to happen, but it would be nice, right?)

 Anyways, another thing I look for is interests. You two don't have to love every single thing in common, but at least have a few that way you can keep a conversation going.

 A true friend wouldn't bail on you in the last minute. For me, it's alright when it happens two or three times, but if it's constant, it's hard to rely on them at that point.

 Things that true friends say vary. Truthfully, not all friends are nice to each other. Sometimes you need to fight just to balance things out, but in the end of the day, everything Will return to normal. There's a fine line between a fight and a FIGHT. Like I said, in a fight, friends would forgive each other just like family does when they fight,  but a FIGHT is another story. If you can't forgive each other or if that friend truly hurt you, it would be difficult to forgive them.

 I lost a friend,  but it wasn't through a fight. It was more like he left our group and slowly drifted to another without a word. I remember trying to talk to him, but he felt distant. I let him go, but over time, our relationship got better. Although, it's not the same, I know he's still a close friend. If you're able to forgive someone, then you know you can't live without them.