Side note on Foreplay - Honest Communication: 

Your partner wants to please you & might have some good guesses of what you will enjoy, but you have to tell him what does or doesn't work for you. 

-If he's doing something you like – carry on! 

-If he's doing something that's nearly right – guide him so he's spot on. (You can make suggestions verbally or simply move him like a puppet – whatever works best for both of you.) 

-If he's doing something that feels weird or uncomfortable – tell him (nicely) right away. If you act like you're enjoying it because you don't want to interrupt the moment/offend his ego, he will continue on in ignorance, thinking he's rocking your world. It might even become a standard move in his repertoire so nip it in the bud! 

-If he isn't doing something you would like him to do – ask (nicely) or just guide his hands/body to give him the hint.

-These pointers work on the flipside too – let him know you're open to guidance in finding ways to make him feel amazing.

4. Penetration – Will it hurt? Not necessarily. Will you bleed? Not necessarily. Everyone is different. Go with the flow & keep communicating. If it's uncomfortable, ask him to slow down and give you time to adjust. If it's actually painful, reverse a step and go back to foreplay – your body will work with you better if you are relaxed. Your body produces its own lubrication – for some girls that is all they need, but you may find you need some extra help. You can buy a bottle of lubricant from the supermarket and keep it in your bag just in case. This can be useful for your first time, or if you are a bit tender after multiple sessions, or just to try out a different sensation. (Tip: lubricant can be sticky. Use sparingly & add more if you need it.)

5. Orgasm – Women can typically have two types of orgasm. Clitoral (external) & vaginal (internal). If you're very lucky you can get both at the same time. Achieving orgasm is not a guaranteed thing every time you have sex – sometimes it can take a long time for a woman to achieve orgasm or it may elude her completely. 

Tips to increase your chances of achieving O: 

-Start from a good mental space. If you are annoyed with your partner you won't be in the right frame of mind to relax and be trusting physically and emotionally.

-Indulge in lots of foreplay before penetration. (Women are more likely to reach orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation than penetration – that said, if your partner is coordinated enough to do both at the same time you have hit the jackpot.)

-Know thyself – set aside some private time to experiment with yourself. If you are comfortable with the way your clitoris looks/feels, and learn how to use it confidently, then you have hugely increased your chances of showing your partner what to do with it.

-Don't think about it – Relax. Have fun. If you get there, that's great! If you don't, you can always try again later.

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But be safe and careful. This should not encourage you to have sex if you are not ready.