I never really thought this would need a part 2.

Basically, I've been seeing a lot of posts and articles lately saying that genderfluid isn't a real thing, and that it's something people only identify with to get attention. Or that it doesn't make sense, because there are only 2 genders.

Before I begin addressing this, I'll tell you some of the things people have said about genderfluidity. These were found on social media sites, and anonymous sites. If you are uncomfortable with reading negative comments about genderfluidity or swearing, please skip starting here, until the next bold area.

"I want to fucking injure any "Genderfluid" people, they're dumbasses. They have no proof of it, and they're annoying as a fucking drill"

"I wish I could meet some "genderfluid" or "pan" or whatever the fuck in person so I could get a good laugh at them"

"How is being genderfluid a thing? How can you change between genders daily and still consider yourself mentally sane and not stupid?"

And then these ones have been said to me:

"Because it's just more of this gender bending bullshit, completely made by frail minded millenials to try and make themselves feel special and unique... you people need serious mental help."

"Oh stop being tumblr in the flesh and get over it :)"

Okay, you can stop skipping now. If you skipped, you didn't miss much. Just some things said that I'll be refuting here in a minute.

I believe that the main reason, as with most things, people attack genderfluidity is because it's something they don't understand. A lot of people need to experience something before they'll believe it, or as one comment said, they need proof. And, evidently, a large amount of people identifying as genderfluid isn't proof enough, which leads me to believe the only proof that person would accept is experiencing it themself.

I cannot make someone experience what I do, and even if I could, I would not want to.

I can only explain what being genderfluid is like, and hope that people will understand.

I wake up every morning and stare at my closet, trying to decide what to wear, knowing that if my gender suddenly switches I'll feel out of place if I dress to feminine or too masculine. I am constantly misgendered or called the wrong name, but I don't correct people because I understand it is difficult to keep up with. I can go weeks without changing, and when that happens it becomes a daily struggle to convince my self that I am valid in what I identify as. My gender switches at random, causing severe and unpredictable dysphoria.

And the truth is, I don't enjoy being genderfluid. If I were able to identify as one thing maybe it would be easier to deal with, because at least then I could learn what to expect, it would be somewhat predictable. (Please Note: I am not at all saying anyone has it better or worse than anyone else, I'm simply speaking for my particular situation and what I believe in regard to that and that alone).

I don't know how to put this into words in such a way that would make someone understand. I don't know how to help someone understand that this isn't something we do for attention.

I mean, I'm not even out to a lot of people. If I wanted to do it for attention that's the first thing I would have done. I also wouldn't experience dysphoria. Also, I think I would have used something more people understand.

But hey, why bother trying to make people understand? Maybe they never will, and that's fine (what's not fine is attacking people for something you don't believe in, but I'm trying to be positive at this point in the chapter).

At the end of the day, we have each other. We don't need people in our lives if they are only going to drag us down.

And I guess that was my sad attempt to inspire someone? This chapter wasn't meant to be like this at all but.... It works(?).

-T (agender, but not using MK right now because I'm trying to figure out name stuff)