When we say that we like/dislike a person, it is not that we actually like or dislike them.

But our feelings are associated with what we think of them. We are in reality, liking or disliking the mental image of them, that we create in our mind.

So just break that image and try to see the person as they are, and not as you want them to be.

Only then will your feelings have value.

Only then, will you realise the real them and the real you.