Thursday, November 15th, 1798

My Dearest, Theodosia,

                                                Although I may not agree with it, your betrothal to Mr. Joseph Alston has been particularly helpful in our cause. Despite not being able to remain romantically involved, we are still allowed to be friends. Since your betrothal, we have been able to see each other face to face more often, though my studies proceed to be a hindrance.

Of course, just because we are allowed to see each other, still does not mean that my father agrees with it. He is continuously telling me that I should focus more on my studies rather than spending time with you. To be perfectly honest, I am surprised he lets me leave the house at all. He is so determined for me to take up a position in law that it is almost taking the joy out of it. But I suppose all he wants me to do is improve, though I can scarcely do that with Father looking over my shoulder. But I suppose it is better than not having him around.

I am sorry to keep this letter brief, but Father wants me to study and if I do not do as he asks, he will forbid us from having any forms of communication beyond this point.

Love Always,

Philip Hamilton.

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My Dearest, Philip,

                                       I must confess, I have noticed the same thing. Since my engagement to Joseph was announced, Father has been particularly calm on the possibility of us meeting more frequently. I believe it is because we no longer stand any chance of getting involved romantically, whereas before, he hated the idea of us being together, now it is not much of a threat. Joseph, although originally agreeing to allow us to continue talking, has become exceedingly withdrawn. I feel as though he may be envious of you.

It is strange to me that your father finds out meetings to be a distraction, particularly as too much study is often viewed as a bad thing. Surely he would understand that and view our meetings as a good way for you to relax your mind from a hard day studying the law. But, I suppose, with your father the way he is and his determination for you and himself to succeed, it makes sense that he would push so much for your education.

Perhaps this is the wrong time to ask, Philip, but I have reread your letter about the publication of the Reynolds Pamphlet. Forgive me, Philip, but why has your opinion on your father changed so suddenly? In the letter, you say that you could never forgive him, but now you discuss it as though nothing has happened. A year has passed, Philip, and you have not mentioned it. Forgive me if I have overstepped the line.

Love Always,

Theodosia Burr.

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Notes;

This exchange holds no known historical significance, however, it does show a dramatic decline in the relationship between the two of them after Burr's betrothal to Alston. Something we expected, however, throughout their letters, they have stated that they shall never find someone better so we find it strange just how quickly their relationship altered after the announcement.