💕Dear Boo,

Hey Boo – my name is Paisley*. I have been struggling a lot with my self-confidence because of my past.

All my life I have been struggling.

I have had eleven (11) different surgeries. It sometimes makes me feel like a freak.

I've been called transgender before due to one surgery.

Then due to another surgery, someone told me that they ‘hope it kills me’.

One surgery I had the doctors told me I wouldn't be able to have kids. I just feel like it hasn't been fair.

It makes me feel like no one will ever date me or be friends with me because I'm so different. There have been times when I wish I was never born.

I just feel so useless, like I don't have a purpose in this world. I could really use some advice about my situation. If you can, please help me.

💕Paisley*—

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❣Dear Paisley*,

To begin with, this is to you as well as everyone! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being transgender. Nothing at all! So to my, cupcakes (readers) Paisley* wasn't shading anyone who is trans.

Okay — moving on.

Goodness, eleven surgeries is just..wow! I can definitely understand your struggles. But realize that those surgeries saved your life.

Unfortunately, we all live in a world where looks matter. I don't care if someone has one eye, a unicorn horn (is that what they're called 🤔) and a snout for a nose. I like people based on what is on the inside. I don't factor in beauty, race, gender, sexuality. If you're beautiful inside, then you're beautiful outside.

If people's looks were based on how they treated others and their personality, I think this world would be much more interesting. 😂

I understand that you were hurt when someone called you transgender. It meant that you looked like the opposite sex. I'm sure that would hurt anyone's feelings. If someone came up to me and asked if I was a man... Well, firstly I would look down at my huge boobs and ask if they're blind. Secondly, I would blow them a kiss and tell them to keep guessing. Where you struggle with your self-image and self-confidence, I understand why you were hurt.

I'm very sorry to hear that you're not able to have kids. Did the doctor remove your reproductive organs? If not, there are always options.

One, there's always the unknown. My husband was told he course have kids due to an injury when he was a kid to his..man region. We now have four kids. My best friend was told she couldn't have kids due to many reasons, many surgeries being one, and she now has a ten-year-old adopted daughter and a five years old son she gave birth to.

Two, you can always freeze your eggs. You can use a surrogate if you choose to go this route.

Three, there are SO many babies and kids who need a loving family. An adoption is always an option.

You're at the age where you are starting to think of your future. So I'm sure this is on your mind.
Life isn't fair honey. It seems like it definitely hasn't been to you.

You have survived because you are strong, tough and a fighter. You have a purpose in this life. Keep going until you find what your purpose is, Paisley*.

What makes you think someone wouldn't want to date you? You seem like a sweet, beautiful young woman. There are men and women (sorry I'm not sure of your sexuality) who will be lucky to date you. Sometimes our perfect one is sent to us when the time is right. Never give up. Get yourself out there and socialize. What's the worse that can happen? At least you're trying.

Woah, who wouldn't want to be friends with you? Being your friend is a blessing. Not everyone is like your evil thoughts. You always have a friend in me. No matter what. I'm here just to talk to about anything at all. It doesn't matter the topic or time, I'm always here for my friends and never judge.

Ask anyone on here, well those who truly know me. I stay true to my word and I will help you get through any struggle in your life. You can always depend on me, Paisley*.

Please don't wish you were never born. You impact everyone's life you come in contact with. Of course, there will be evil people who are full of hate. But not everyone is like that.

Take those negative thoughts and options and throw them away. From now on I want you to think positive thoughts.

Stand in front of a mirror and say, “I AM BEAUTIFUL!” five or ten times a day. If your demons start to bring you down, don't give them power.

Everyone is beautiful in their own way. It doesn't matter if you're not a model like the society tricks young girls into believing they should look like. Guess what? Neither am I! I don't wanna be. I love being me, flaws and all.

Try moving to a different area and start a new life. Our surroundings can affect us in so many ways. Mentally. Emotionally. Physically. Do what you must to take care of your number one person... YOURSELF!

Negative thoughts are like bullies. They can tear you down, only if you give them the power to. Keep control of your power love!

Self-confidence issues usually lead to depression, anxiety, and stress. When hours feeling any of these things, do something productive. You can write in a journal daily (I do this) to release your emotions. Buy an adult coloring book and colored pencils. I also do this. I have about 8 books I color, well when I can keep my two daughters away from them. 😉

Bottom line is to never give up, always push forward. You have a purpose in this life baby. Find what you love doing and go for it. Keep positive thoughts and let them overpower your negative demons. Don't harm yourself. I love that you were born and are alive. I've gained a new friend today because you didn't give up.

Take it day by day, sometimes even hour by hour. Anytime anything is too much on you, remember I'm always a message away. I won't let you give up.
You can do this!!

Love Always,
Boo

⬆⬆ This is important! ⬆⬆

⬆⬆ Say this to yourself each morning. ⬆⬆

⬆⬆Answer those for me ⬆⬆

*Name has been changed to protect identity*

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Y'all please give Paisley* your advice as well.
—xoxo