Dear Boo,

Hi, I am writing to you again with another situation in my life. After breaking it off with my boyfriend, I recently found myself trying to win back my abusive ex-girlfriend. I don't know what's wrong with me, please don't think I'm crazy. Of course, I don't miss the abuse in general, but her beauty and smile.

I, of course, told my mom about this, however, it didn't end well. My mom threatened to kick me out of the house if she ever saw me trying to communicate with my ex again.

Although this hurts me, I keep trying to use my friend to get through to my ex as much as possible.

I'm at a loss of what I should do. Can you please help me?

Thanks,
Peyton*

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Dear Peyton*,

I want to begin by deeply apologizing to you. Somehow I didn't write your name on my list of letters, and you got skipped over. Anytime I am sent a letter I write everyone's name in my notebook I use to write and answer the letters—something like an index. Well, when I received your letter I responded to you but failed to write your name down. I went in my inbox to find a book and noticed your letter. I am so sorry for this mistake, it was not intentional at all. If anyone has sent me a letter and it's not been posted (I'm backed up from letters sent on June 1st), please send me a reminder. Or, if you want to know what spot your letter is, message me for that as well.

Moving on—thank you for writing to me again, I appreciate you a lot. Y'all may remember Peyton*, she wrote in a couple of times before about this abusive ex-girlfriend and about her ex-boyfriend who sent her private pictures to his friends.

I remember when I was a teenager my mom would say, “you'll understand when you're older” or, “you'll understand when you're a mother”, and I hated that. I probably sassed her by saying ”whatever” and rolled my eyes. Sorry, Mama! But now that I'm older and a mother, I understand.

The reason I mentioned that is because that's one thing I'm going to tell you. You will understand why your mom said that when you're older and (if you want to) when you have children.

As a Mom, our priority is keeping our children out of harm, no matter their age! I understand missing the good things about your ex-girlfriend. It's very rare that abusers change their ways. If you went back to her things would be the same sooner or later.

Do you miss the pain you felt when her fist hit you? Of course not! Do you miss the sharp heartache you felt when she spit offensive words towards you? Absolutely not! When you think of her smile, think about how many tears you cried over her. When you think of her beauty, remember the bruises she left on your beautiful face and body. You deserve much better than her!

I'm not saying that to be rude or to be a bitch, I'm reminding you of that because you never deserved the hell she put you through. I think you need closure to fully let her go.

Do you think of her when you're dating someone, or only when single? If it's the latter, I think she comes to your mind because you are lonely. I think you may want someone in your life who cares for you and you don't actually miss her—you just miss the feeling of having someone. There are plenty of girls and guys out there, dear, please don't go back to this horrible girl. You're worth so much more than being abused.

Some people hate being single, even fear it actually. I'm actually one of those people! Honestly, I'm afraid to be alone. It's been a *very* long time since I've been single, but I always hated those few short periods when I wasn't dating someone. Do you think you're like this too? It's okay if you are, everyone feels differently about relationships. It doesn't mean you're weak or anything, as some people believe.

Something I recommend is boosting yourself up and loving yourself during any moment you get down. I'm honestly glad you broke up with your boyfriend. The things he did wasn't respectful, and that is a must have been any relationship.

Remember, never settle for less than you're worth! Sometimes love comes when you least expect it. You're young—get out, enjoy life, meet new people, and have fun. Anytime you need anything to send me a message, you know I'm always here!

Love Always,
Boo

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☝🏻 Always know your worth.☝🏻

*Name has been changed to protect identity.

**Video attached is Señorita by Shawn Mendes & Camila Cabello. I'm hooked on this song, my girl mr_mendes_saved_me got me interested in Shawn and I adore this one. Plus, Camila is smokin hot.

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