Dear Boo,

Hello Mrs. Boo, I need some advice in a lot...A LOT of things. Let me just start off with saying that you are an amazing person and maybe, I don't know, maybe I'd like to be closer with you because you're such a nice person.

Well, moving on with my troubles.

Let me start with the source of my problems: my Mom!

My Mom is – let's say – a Barbie woman. She's pretty and has a great body. But, she does judge people on how they look, especially me. Basically, she's a materialist. She likes to buy my happiness with things I like, instead of giving me her own love.

Now me, I am the complete opposite. I don't have a great body and I don't look pretty, and I'm not afraid to say that.

My Mom does whatsoever to bring my self-esteem down whenever I'm at my peak of confidence

As I said – my whole problems revolve around her. I came out to her and she said she won't tolerate a gay child. I'm bisexual and she said I was gay. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm in therapy because of her. One wrong move around her and she will disown me for several weeks.

I'm just going to skip to my biggest problem. I have a boyfriend, March 21st is our one year anniversary. I want to tell my parents, but there's another problem. I live in Arizona and he lives in Ohio. I don't want my parents to think he's some kind of pedophile because he's not. He's 16 and I'm 15.

I want them to accept us because due to him – I got better and my parents noticed. They think it's because I'm in therapy, but in reality, he has helped me more. I want to be with him. His father already approves of me and I want my parents to approve of him. He's smart and kind. The only downside is that he's in a band. I don't like band people, but I learned to respect his decisions.

Thanks,

Rosas

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Dear Rosas,

Hi dear, thank you for coming to me for advice with your issues. First off let me say this to you and everyone reading, you are beautiful inside and out. I've seen your photos and you are truly beautiful. I think you feel that you're not pretty because of how your Mom speaks to you and downgrades you. She's beat it in your head that you're not pretty and to hate your body. Before you can fully love anyone we must love ourselves. I can tell that you don't love yourself because you're okay with putting yourself down.

I don't care what your Mom looks like, if she has an ugly heart then that says so much more than her outer appearance. She can look like Jennifer Lopez (I think she's beautiful), but if she has an ugly heart then she is not beautiful. I know people judge others by what they look like, and that's a sad world we all live in.

You are 15, you're still growing and not an adult yet. Your mother should realize this and show you love instead of buying it. It makes me wonder if this is how she was raised. Did her parents buy her love as well? Some parents think showing love will cause weakness...which is stupid! Love builds strength, not weakness.

She is showing you the wrong type of love. She should be there not only are a mother but also as a friend. Because she doesn't show you love it throws off your balance that makes a childhood complete.

Happy anniversary to you and. Your boyfriend! It's a good thing that he has helped bring you to a better level. There's nothing wrong with the distance, in the end, it will make both of you appreciate each other much more.

Normally I would recommend talking to your parents, but with how negative your Mom is, I'm unsure. How is your relationship with your Dad? I hope he treats you much better. He should also stand up to your Mom as well.

Back to your boyfriend – it's great that you have someone who is there for you when things get bad. As far as him being in band… why do you not like band people? Think of it this way, he is following something that he enjoys. There is nothing wrong with him being in band. It doesn't change how great he is. In fact, it's great that he follows his dream and does something he enjoys. I'm sure there are things you say do that he isn't too thrilled about, but he doesn't say anything because he supports you.

Support him as well! Let him know that you're proud of his choices that he's doing something he enjoys. He could be like a lot of 16-year-old boys, out here getting in trouble with the law or drugs. But, he's not. Instead, he's putting his talent into music. I think that's pretty special. I'm sure you listen to music, right? Well without a band, that music artist wouldn't be anywhere.

I'm proud of you for coming out to your Mom, even if it didn't end well. It's sad to think that some parents won't accept who their children love.

Love sees no boundaries. Love is love.

You have a few more years before you're legally an adult, so my advice is to pick and choose your battles with your Mom. Don't let her continue to put you down. When she says something negative to you, repeat what she said and say something like “I hope that makes you proud to hurt me the way you do”. Idk, it may start an argument, but I don't let others put me down or walk over me. I'm quick to defend others and myself.

Start talking about your boyfriend to your Mom, but say he is a friend and begin telling her how wonderful he is. Overtime slip in a conversation that you're dating. Parents are a bit odd when our kids find a boyfriend or girlfriend online. Most parents want their child(ren) protected from being hurt. I'm afraid your Mom will say many negative things to you if you come out with “Hey Mom, here's my boyfriend”. I truly think you should take it step by step as I suggested above. Hopefully, this will help ease her into the idea of you and him dating.

I hope I am able to help a small amount. I'm truly sorry that you must go through hell like this. You definitely don't deserve to be treated like this.

We can for sure become closer. I'm always here anytime you need a friend. We can talk and get to know each other. It would be my pleasure to call you a friend, you're very thoughtful and sweet.

I do have a task for you to do. After you read this I would like for you to pm me 5-7 good qualities about yourself. Nothing negative at all. Each day I will try to help you boost up your self-esteem. I hope things begin looking yo for you sweetheart.

Love Always,
Boo

⬆️ Without the right type of love out balance of human needs is thrown off.⬆️

⬆️I love how true this is⬆️

⬆️Never forget this⬆️

⬆️Always⬆️

⬆️Please do this every day⬆️

⬆️Love your curves honey, I love mine no matter what!⬆️

⬆️ Remember this!⬆️

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