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This letter does describe emotional/mental abuse from a parent. Please read with caution if this is a trigger for you.
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Dear Boo,

This is about my mom. She seems to take out all anger on me. Today we're busy moving and she told me to brush my teeth. The sink was filled with water and I didn't notice so I spit the toothpaste there.

Later my mom starts shouting at me. She calls me an idiot and says that I did it on purpose when I didn't. She then curses at me. Where I am there's this word that comes from One of the many languages we have. The word Is voetsek. The word Is offensive and translates to – get away you dog.

The fact that isn't the first time she has said it to me makes it worse. She gets upset at me all the time. There isn't a day that passes by where my mom doesn't shout at me. It's really defeating when that happens.

I know she is stressed with all the moving and she gets easily upset now. But what about the times before she was never stressed all those times. She just makes life so difficult.

I have a brother and my mom favours him. She loves him more than me. She never shouts at him or gets upset even when he does something wrong. It's always me who gets the tough end of the stick.

I'm sick of her doing this. I've told her many times that she hurts my feelings by doing this and she just replies by saying "what feelings? You have no feelings."
And that really hurts.

I really wish that she is very far from me. Cause anytime we're close she seems to find the thing I do wrong and she shouts at me.

Have a good day
❤ Addy*

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Dear Addy*,

Thanks for writing to me about the problem with your Mom. I'm very sorry that you are being treated like this. No mother, or father either, should ever treat any of their children like this.

Stress is not a reason to treat anyone like shit. This is very wrong. I can understand maybe raising her voice, then apologizing, but this is unacceptable.

That's awful that she spoke to you like that over a simple mistake of spitting toothpaste in the sink of water. It's not like it was a million dollars or something. It was a tiny error if one of my kids did this all I would say is “that's fine, just clean it out”. Shit happens. But your mother acts like it's the end of the world and you just killed her. Ugh, that makes me so mad how she treats you.

You say she treats your brother much better… let me guess, he's either the baby or the firstborn. Sometimes parents treat their first or last born better, sad but true.

Normally I would suggest talking to her, but you already tried that. I wish I had answers for you of why she treats you this way. You definitely don't deserve it–at all. Did she tell you why she treats you so badly?

Everyone has feelings! Don't let her convince you otherwise. This would hurt my feelings as well. Of course, if you treated her the same she would say you're the bad guy.

To me, your Mom is acting like a bully! This is never okay!

Is there any family members you can stay with for a little bit? Possibly a grandparent or someone close? You may not realize it, but this is mental and emotional abuse. I posted an issue yesterday with graphics about what is considered emotional abuse, please take a look at it. Sometimes removing ourselves from certain situations is what is best. But, I do understand that you aren't if legal age yet so it's kind of complicated to just up and leave.

I would record her outbursts for a couple weeks on your phone or tablet. Put all of the videos together. Then sit her down and explain how she is a monster and treats you horribly. Show her the videos so she can see for herself how awful she treats you. Sometimes people don't believe things until they see it like that for themselves.

You shouldn't have to deal with being treated like this. A parent is supposed to be your safety person, someone who makes you feel loved and respected more than anyone else. Sadly, this isn't what is happening.

Anytime you are going through issues with your Mom just send me a message and we can talk about it. I can try my best to comfort you and hope you realize that you are fully loved here on Wattpad. I am always here for friends, no matter what time... day or night. I'm here! You're not alone sweetheart.

I do recommend therapy for your Mom to get to the bottom of her anger issues. I just truly hope that her abuse hasn't turned physical. But to me – emotional is just as bad, if not worse, than physical abuse. Either one is sad. If things continue to get worse speak to an adult, a teacher or someone who can have something done if you don't feel safe in your home.

Always keep in mind that I'm always a pm or email away. I hope things get better and she changes before you start to develop hate toward her.

Love always,
Boo

*Name has been changed to protect identity.

**There is no music video attached with this letter. I felt it was more important to answer Addy's* letter.