Now, I realise that this chapter isn't very long but coming out is an incredibly personal thing and there is no 'perfect way' to come out. A lot of it depends on your circumstances, age, and who you're telling.

Your safety is paramount! If you think coming out puts you in harm's way, or risks you getting hurt - especially depending on where you live and how accepting your country/state is - we recommend you don't come out. Of course, we understand if you have to come out and you feel like you can't hide it: in that case, it's definitely a good idea to have somewhere to stay for the next few nights, whether that's money for a hostel or just a friend's couch.

Come out on your own terms. It's okay to write some notes if you feel like you'll be nervous or unsure of what to say. Alternatively, you could come out by writing a letter and giving it to the person you're coming out to.

Preparing. Try to gauge how accepting someone is before you come out. You could try subtly bringing up LGBTQ+ characters from books or movies or queer celebrities. When you come out, it's not ideal to come out during arguments or fights. Think about the time you're picking, especially for example if there are multiple people in your house and you only want to come out to one of them, wait for the others to leave the house. 

You don't have to come out to everybody (or more than one person) if you don't want to. It's completely fine to come out gradually (or not plan on sharing your identity with others). Take time to think about how you'll avoid telling people you don't want to find out. I know this sounds counterproductive but it's incredibly important if you live in an unaccepting neighbourhood or know people at school/college/work who won't be accepting.

When you come out. Remember the other person might be shocked or upset and this may mean they act irrationally. It's okay for your loved ones - or who you're coming out to - to need time to process what you've told them. Allow them to ask questions if they want and be open to talking to them about your identity (remember: it's okay for them to ask so they can understand!). However, no one should "choose" a label for you, especially if you're coming out as queer/questioning.

Don't forget, your identity is equally as valid if you choose not to come out and you shouldn't feel pressured to come out to anybody! You are who you are, regardless of who knows.