Dear Chi-chan,

I had a ex-boyfriend that cheated on me. He begs me to take him back every day. I love him still, but he cheated on me. Should I trust him, or not?

Cammie

Wow, Cammie you got yourself a scene out of the TV shows. I don't know if this happens allot in real life, but I see it in TV. Wait, back to the topic the decision to trust him or not. I don't know, but I'll try my best.

You must be going allot girl! So take a seat down and let your emotions all out, if you haven't. Listen to the song I got up there and continue, because I saved that song for something like this. Like I always say to everyone before I start, relax and chill. Do meditation to release it all and clear your mind, so you won't do anything you don't mean to.

He cheated on you, and you lost your trust. And now he asks you back. That damn bastard needs a beating from me and a whole bunch of other people. If he does mean it, then he fucked up and better make up for it. If he doesn't, I'm hunting that guy down and I know allot of people who would too.

Option 1: I suggest you to do some research and spying to figure out if you should trust him or not.

Call me weirdo, but I like to stalk my friends at school (My friends stalk me too), and if I need information about someone/something, I'll go get it with my connections and stalking, or I would say to make fun of my friend observe carefully, closely, and intensely. You can have your friends or connections ask him about it, or if you know you're good at it, stalk him. Okay, maybe stalking him isn't the best way to find out, but that's my way of doing things, and what I'd do first. Yeah, I am a complete weirdo, but my friend apologized for not stalking me that much, so I ain't the only one out there. You might get some info about him and enough to decide if he's trustworthy or not.

Option 2: Ah, I am bad at this. I can't think of anything other than stalking him, or getting your connections, since you still like him. Wait, I got one now!

So how about you test him? Here's you option. Getting your friend to do this is better for you, because they'd probably be more trustworthy, but your ex has a 50-50 chance of thinking that it's suspicious, or has a better chance of believing it, because it's you friend. Getting your connection to do this could be better, because he won't be suspicious as much, because your connection isn't really close to you, but only a resource; However on the other hand, your connection could be untrustworthy and working for your boyfriend. And now here's the plan. You go get a guy friend/connection, or a girl, if she can fake being a lesbian and tell them to say to your ex when they're both alone, and you can spy in a bush if you can stay quiet and won't get caught:

"You keep asking for [insert your name] back. You cheated on her. Why would she trust you? She's mine! I'm in love with her and you fucked up, so don't get near her you damn bastard!"

But don't do this if you know your ex can kick ass, because it might turn into a fight. Based on the reaction of the boyfriend, you can decide if he can be trusted or not. And the risk of this is the person pretending to be in love with you might be working under your ex, bad at acting, or will get beat up by your boyfriend.

Option 3: Uh... what was it again. I forgot it. Damn, I'm going to try to remember it now. Uh... um... wait... I remember it now!

It's another test on your boyfriend. So you can test how much he's willing to do to earn your trust back. You can do whatever with this, just what amuses you. One test I'd do is make him buy everything for me like food, more food, and otaku stuff. Another you can do is take off all of your make-up, wear something plain, ruff up your hair and put it down, and everything that makes you extra pretty, and see if he's still willing to take you back, but it won't work if you're naturally beautiful, or like me who doesn't do any of that stuff. Before you do this, you can tell him to list every reason why you should take him back, why he cheated on you, and then tell him you'll say yes only if he does what you want him to, which is the test.

Option 4: Sing Run Devil Run and slap that bastard in the face, like BAM! (Do the bitch slap?) Or punch him. Kicking him in the balls would be also fun for revenge and just because you can. Ahem, anyways, what I mean is to turn him down and tell him to get outta your face before you murder him. Might be something allot of people would do.

Something to Consider: Seeing what other people would've done, might influence what you might want to do. So here you go.

Me: I never had a boyfriend, just I got rejected, or I rejected others, but I can still say I got experience and helped people with relationship problems before, so my answer option 4. I truly would love doing that to a guy who dared to cheat on me. You might enjoy it too.

Friend 1: No way

Friend 2: I wouldn't trust him, because personally, I don't believe it when people say stuff like that. If he really loved her, he wouldn't have cheated in the first place. But she could take him back if she really does love him.

Friend 3: Uh, no. If he really loved you, he would have never cheated on you. If you take him back, he may do it again. You can forgive him, but don't trust him. He's already betrayed your trust.

And I've waited for a couple of weeks, or so. I don't think I'm getting anymore Cammie, so sorry about only having 3 responses, other than mine. So the decision is yours to choose. If you can't decide on what to do, maybe asking your friends and family (Unless if they will kill him the way I will and my friends) would help. And your family could be the murderous type and would help, but I don't actually think you'd like it, since you still have feelings for him.

Good Luck Cammie!

Chiaki Shiraishi

P.S. If you don't know, the song is about a boy who betrayed the girl and now she's too cool for him

P.S.S. There's the English song of Run Devil Run by Ke$ha, but I still love the one by SNSD better