I can't stNd it NEmor!!! My parNts fite & fite & fite!!!! It's aL dey do! My sis wz d 1 helping me Thru it, bt she jst HAD 2 muv out!!! I jst can't even!!!! hlp me gal plz!

Jazzy

Um... hey Jazzy. Actually it took me like a while to finally understand it all. I translated it with some website, but that didn't really work. So I had to go over it a bunch of times to get it. For the people who can't read it or suck at this type of stuff like me I finally got the English translation of it below.

I can't stand it anymore!!! My parents fight and fight and fight!!! It's all they do! My sister was the one helping me through it, but she just had to move out!!! I just can't even!!!! Help me girl please!

Jazzy

Okay, now let's start this! I can get how frustrating it is to have parent that fight allot. My parents used to argue so much, and now it lessened. I can name about over twenty people who have family problems like you and me, so you aren't alone with this problem.

First off, relax. From what everyone sees, you're really mad. Maybe a day chilling would help, or yoga. Some tunes like Moondrops (Piano Song), Morning Light (Another Piano Song), and Niji by Aqua Timez (The Music Box) are helpful too.

Next, I'm going straight into it. Dealing with parents that fight allot, I can't fix it completely, but I did fix most of it.

Plan #1: This is what I did. I did something nice for my mom and said my dad did it. I did something nice for my dad and said my mom did it. When they found out it wasn't me, I told them about how I hate the way they fight so much, and I don't remember, but I might've added in some fake tears. That worked to stop a few fights, but it might cause even a worst result, if your parents begin blaming each other, so leave out the tears if you choose this one.

Plan #2: Just talk to them about how you feel when they fight when they aren't fighting. Be honest about it and tell them your perspective on it all. If you plan beforehand what you want, I think it'll come out better, and your parents might see all of the effort you put in this and how much it means to you.

Plan #3: This is what I'd never do, because of my personality, but you might. Ask a school councilor, other family member (Aunt, Cousin, Uncle), or/and a trusted adult about it. And if your parents agree, have a family therapy sessions. This would maybe be the best thing to do, but have my warning. If your parents don't like to have 'outsiders' or a bad image, then DO NOT do this. It will cause even more problems that your parents will blame on you.

I hope one of the plans worked out, if you did any of them. So I want to talk about your sister now. Your sister was probably awesome to be the one who you looked for help. She moved away, sadly. And I'm going to ask you, are you mad at her. From what the message says, it seems like you are at the moment, but not after you calm down. If you are really mad at her, then please don't be. Your sister probably hated it as much as you, but she didn't look to you to for help, so handled it all by herself. If you miss her allot, that's understandable, but really please don't blame it on her, if you do. If you don't, then that's good.

Chiaki Shiraishi~

P.S

I decided to ask my friend, Ayumu, if she wanted to help, since she's one of the people I know who has this problem. If she wants to, I'll add it in as Advice Letter #4 Ayumu.  Maybe she'll help out on a bunch of the other letters.