"Failing to plan is planning to fail"

"Man proposes, God disposes"

Which of these statements do you believe in? I mean, which of it influences your moves and decisions in life? The first? The second? Or is it both?

I don't know about you but I'm constantly torn between these two thoughts.

I have heard many people speak of and also read and watched a lot of content that mentions about the importance of planning. So, yeah I do believe in the fact that plans have to be made. Because I feel like things could really go wrong without one. And certainly in some cases, planning has helped me too.

But then, there's this other thing. Sometimes, no matter how much you plan or prepare, you end up messing things up. And it's annoying! Super annoying because you put your heart and soul into planning something, creating goals, trying to work around a timeline, telling others this is how something is going to be done and then BOOM! it all fails horribly. It fails because your plan wasn't good enough. It fails because another human interferes. Or it fails simply because life suddenly decides to play with you. Somehow, it fails in ways that you never imagined. And it is truly heartbreaking.

It is during these frustrating moments that I feel like I should never make plans again or even communicate them with anyone because what's even the point? After all we have no control over what's going to happen, right? So why bother wasting your time and energy on chalking things out when you clearly know that it could go downhill any moment?

And whatever I say is not based on any particular incident. It's a couple of things that has happened overtime. I've been having this dilemma for sometime now. Perhaps since the beginning of Covid or maybe even before that...I don't know.

Now, I do know that in most cases or in all cases, I'm supposed to accept whatever that happens as 'fate' and stop overthinking. But then, unfortunately, I often don't have the maturity to do so, at least not right now. I get very upset. I feel angry. I start hating myself for making plans and I hate anyone or anything that ruins it for me.

So yeah, this has been on my mind for sometime and I decided to brood over here today because there's nothing else that I could do about it. But honestly, I don't know what I'm trying to achieve by writing this though.

Does it even make sense to you? 🙄

And have you ever been on the horns of a dilemma like this so randomly? Let me know your thoughts and tell me how you cope up in such situations.