This chapter takes us back to the chapter about accepting who your partner is. Many people have been upset with my statement about people not changing. Many people believe that people can change... but I pretty much stand by my statement. Because that chapter was about YOU changing someone ELSE. You shouldn't do that. Mostly because you have no right to.

And the same goes for someone trying to change you. If you have a partner who is trying to change who you are, tell them to go to Hell. Seriously. They don't deserve you... and you don't deserve their nonsense.

I have been with my husband for 20 years, and I can tell you that the key to our happiness is accepting and embracing who the other person is.

If I gain 15 (or 20 or 30) pounds, my husband never says I need to change, because he accepts me the way I am. If I lose weight, same goes. When we got together he smoked. I never once asked him to quit, even though I didn't love that he smoked. That was up to him, not me. Why? It's his body and his habit.

Now, do I want to lose some weight? Maybe I do, but that's up to me, not my husband. His job is to accept me and if I want to change, that's up to me.

I know that, sometimes, my sarcasm annoys my husband. Should I be less sarcastic with my humour? Perhaps I should be. But that's not up to my partner. It's up to me. If my sense of humour is a deal-breaker for my partner, then he should find another partner. Because that's part of who I am.

If your partner does not like you for who you are, gently tell them to take you as you are, or to have a nice life without you in it.

My Advice: If you want to change something about yourself, go ahead and do it. But if your partner is demanding that you change, get rid of them. They haven't yet learned that changing you isn't their job. And the last thing you need in life is some jerk bringing you down.