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In the name of Allah the Most Gracious and the Most Merciful.

Peace and Blessings of Almighty Allah(ﷻ), be upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ), his blessed descendants and his noble companions.

السلام عليكم ورحمةالله وبركاته○

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmathullahi Wa Barakathuhu!

My Dear Sweethearts,

I pray for good health and strong Iman for everyone of you. So what I wanted to say is,

"Pregnancy" is the topic today!

Should I tell or not? Are you okay with it?

Are you afraid or you wouldn't want to know?

Its not I'm explaining what it is!
I am just going to tell my experience that why I faced some problems, so you all wouldn't face it like I did...

And I am not going into any thing that will be uncomfortable for any of my sweethearts.

I hope that you gain benefit from what I share with you. In Shaa Allah.

In a girl's life there comes many moments where she feels alone, and rejected.

And these feelings leave us very helpless.

Sometimes even when parents scold about something, we take it to our heart so deeply.

What most girls do and which I did was they stop taking care of themselves.

They stop eating properly,

Doesn't pamper their skin,

And always think about their sad feelings,

And that is so harmful for us internally, we can't even guess how much it affects us.

Everyone faces a difficult phase in their own way,

And at the age of yours, a girl needs the most care.

Due to something low in my life I did the same!

I stopped eating!

Milk was a far away thing for me.

Taking care of my skin, not at all!

Then the lady (whom I found as an inspiration) advised me of many things including these;

But the damage was done as for those months I completely ignored myself.

So then when I was pregnant for the first time,

She advised me many things;

A baby needs full nourishment and that is gained much from her past routine of eating.

I didn't took care of myself nor I was much healthy internally, those months made me week from inside very much.

Because those years as I said they are the most important

I was pregnant and my husband and everyone, no doubt they took care of me very much all of them.

But I refused to drink milk sometimes and many healthy things which are important..But I tried very much!

Then my lady of inspiration taught me;

That no matter how much you do things in the end, a husband wants a healthy wife who could meet his demands in everything

So as it was my first time as well as I was learning about my husband

So whenever we had an argument.
Which is very common in couples.

I used to sleep hungry due to anger

Small arguments are very common in a relationship but you shouldn't suffer yourself.

As I told you, he is my hot headed hubby. So I always used to stop him about many things due to anger.

Which turned into small arguments

And they used to finish by an hour or at night.

But my inner self always used to take time to absorb these all so I used to skip my meals just because of it.

Jasmine:
Yeah yeah... Aapi I dont know how will I control myself aapi😟😟... I always get hurt for simple messages of my friends...and I stop eating and everything😭. I cant imagine a life with my hubby if I get any problems.... Alhamdulillah your words of wisdom will help me alottt aapi. In Shaa Allah I will take your advises into my actions aapi!

(Aapi. Continues her speech with a beautiful smile gracing her face )

Thats why I am sharing my sweety don't repeat my mistake.

You took it to another level dear I am blessed to have lovely sisters who are listening to me💖💖

We girls are very sensitive, one word Is enough to think for a whole night

I used to get along with him as he was very considerate he used to apologize or do something but things aren't forgotten easily.

I did a huge mistake of not taking care of myself in those days.

And at the time of my delivery

It was worse situation, My husband had to hold an oxygen mask throughout I wasn't able to breath properly.
And due to my weakness it resulted in to excessive bleeding which wasn't stopping easily. I had a very crucial time.

Doctors had a hard time stopping the bleeding,
And I wasn't sure if I will be there
Because it wasn't in me to handle, It was all due to my mistakes.

Zahra (sweet angel) was healthy shukar. Alhamdulillah.

And then I was scolded enough by everyone including my panicked hubby.

And he took care of me very very much.

At that time baby took what she needed from me but I grew internally very week.

And you know the Labour pains made by Allah are far far less than artificial pains than that doctors give during caesarian.

In the last months of pregnancy, it's good to walk how much you can.

Don't take artificial pains ever, they are ten times worse.

Jasmine pops again :
"I learnt that cesarean causes our womb very weak....😰😰😰😰"

Aapi continues
Yes. Yes because it's artificial dear.
Allah's pains are far less than that.

And my dear good walk and proper diet leads to normal delivery

And why I am telling you all before is when you are pregnant everyone gives you suggestions which makes you confused so if you know before! you can handle it easily!
In Shaa Allah.

My dear, husbands do care and he did but we should take care of ourselves from now (before marriage).

It's in mother's hand to eat properly.

He used to help me a lot in everything it was me who used to get stubborn and angry due to his some words which a wife has to handle in her life.

So no matter what happens, how much you are hurt, even if the life is at it's worst stay, don't stop taking care of your self.

In the end every one wants a healthy wife and a healthy mother!

Not try! you have to do!

you know how much important these days are of your life, the food you intake now is for your future health for bearing a healthy child sweety❤

We can't ignore the demands of our husbands dear.

A wife loves her husband and for that she loves to do his every work, how will she cope with him if she is not healthy?

Lilly pops out after being silent for the whole conversation. While Mango is still closing her EYES in disgust for the repetition of the word "PREGNANCY".

" I am absorbing each of your words in my mind and will never
forget انشاء الله. And I apply what I learn in my life💓 By the way mango you can open your eyes, we know that you were listening the whole conversation eventhough you were showing distaste"

Fuming Mango speaks up still her eyes are closed:

"Lilly its just I HATE this topic, aapi when are you going to change the topic! Ewww Urgghh I dont want this topic anymore"

Lilly speaks with a smirk

" Huh? REALLY? I dont think you hate this topic actually! If you really HATE this topic you should have closed your EARS not EYES sweety"

Lilly and Jasmine couldn't stop laughing seeing the blushed face of Mango .

Mango finally gets up to leave the gathering finding hard to control her friends' teasing.

Somehow Aapi calms down fuming Mango and begins her words of Wisdom.

Every girl desires to be a mother having a beautiful child.

Jasmine: Ohhh No! I can never harm my babies by my stupid dieting...😫 and aapi... I dont like food at all... I eat once a day...and will starve the rest... and If I'm uspet...I wont eat at all. Even though I control my diet I never loose weight by doing this..but I keep on doing😫

Lilly gives a pointed look! "Jasmine will you leave Aapi to continue her speech. Stop your wise questions for now!"

Aapi continues her speech with a bright smile

Its alright sweetheart, I'm enjoying your banters! This reminds myself with my friends!

And Sweetheart Don't have that kind of diet, your hubby will need you and your children too!

Every husband is demanding my dear!

Don't be scared at all its a lovely feeling that you experience meeting to his every demand not to forget the rewards.

But if you are weak it gets really really hard at a point which makes you a little far and makes a gap for another person.

I was telling every husband is demanding and babies are even more!

Love blooms when you take care of them!

We have to be strong internally to meet up to their demands

Milk is the main course of healthy life.

Drink milk before sleeping everynight.

Don't drink to much coffee just fresh milk before bed daily for your future baby!

Lilly: I truely have to say حزاك الله خيرا from the depth of my heart for you dee. You are a indeed a blessing
الحمد لله💗

Aapi:

Alhumdulilah you could learn!
I don't want anyone to go through what I went so I want every girl to be internally strong

Lilly: Wishing the same thing for others as we wish for us, rarely possessed quality dee. Which you have! Subhaan Allah!

Aapi just shakes her head saying

You will learn my flaws in the book sweetheart! but here I will say too I have many many flaws!

You all girls now make your routine to eat healthy and see your life will be amazing ahead

No matter what you go through eat properly

Had an argument with your husband no problem make a special meal for both and enjoy together💞💞

It's difficult to do sometimes but I can't even tell you how it's benefits, they are outstanding💓💓💓

Marriage is beautiful as well as hard.
But you have to struggle a bit which will lead your husband to be as you want!

It's not easy to converse in this topic with my babies. Lol.

Mango is so shy to listen to it 😐
But believe me marriage is the beautiful bond created by Allah.
Your husband is the closest to you in every matter! He is a best friend whom you don't need to hide anything!

Allah has made this bond beautiful!

SUBHAAN ALLAH!

Lilly: "It is a bed of roses like the thorns are hidden; the difficulty is hidden as well"

Aapi continues...

SubhanAllah true sweetheart!
Make your husbands your best friends ❤❤❤❤

That was the ADVISE for TODAY
❤💛💜

NOW I will tell you special Duas

The first dua

That before marriage I used to make is;

"Oh ALLAH unite us by your blessings and your mercy"

This is so amazing and I just can't explain it's benefits it has adorned me with❤💜

I want to share more but kids I am extremely sorry. He won't have dinner then😐
Note husbands are also babies!

You are beauties beyond my imagination and words❤❤❤💜💜
And to your future husbands a future queen IN shaa,Allah💝💝💝

My mother always used to tell .
Allah has made everything and He has made it beautiful❤❤💜💜 So always adore yourself who you are! Almighty has created you beautifully!

I have no words to tell my gratitude with all honesty that is too much❤❤❤❤

May you all always stay in the shade of Allah's beautiful mercy and help all the girls you will meet in the future.

And be a wonderful daughter, wife, mother to your families💝💝💝💝💝💝💝.

Aameen Aameen Yaa Rabbal Aalameen!

Stay tuned to know what was the challenge given by Aapi!

●NOTE: This is a conversation between a trio (Mango, Lilly and Jasmine) with their Aapi (Soul sister- UmmZahra)

You will find me as "Jasmine" here!

Hope this was easy to understand! If not please do let me know to improve my style of writing!

Jazakum Allahu Khairan.

"سُبْحَانَكَ اللْهُمَّ وَبِحَمْدِكَ، أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْكَ"

'Glory be to You O Allah, and with Your praise, I testify that there is no God (worthy of worship) except You, I seek Your forgiveness, and I repent to You.'