Now this one is a tough topic. Might be to toughest one I address.

It use to be that heartbreaks and breakups were apart of young adulthood. Then is became apart of teenage years and finally it is even apart of childhood.

Everyone has been through it but how do you deal with it? And how do you prevent it?

I hope this chapter can answer those questions mostly for the young kids who deal with this wither by experience or peer pressure.

One thing to keep in mind is not all breakups are personal. Yes you shared secrets, fears, your hearts even. However, many breakups are caused by the behavior of one if not both people in the relationship. It isn't that they don't like you they may not like the behavior you express toward them.

Relationships must be a two way give-n-take. That doesn't mean if the giving-n-taking are balanced, there will be no breakup or heartbreak. We are talking about two human beings trying to compromise to become one.  When at the same time you have to be careful not to ignore your own needs and wants. Now this in itself is a tough task. Remember it is not all your fault some blame has to go the other way.

Can you completely avoid breakups and heartbreaks?

I would say not. We can never fully know what will happen so I will not promise that you can prevent these things but you can learn to better handle them.

My first suggestion is to talk about it to a close friend. Cry all you need to and that goes for the guys as well. Trust me keeping it to yourself will only make it worse many times over.

Next I would reflect over the relationship by asking the following:

Was the relationship serious or for the fun of it?

Did they like me for who I am or what I had?

After this try finding a lesson to live by or just listen to your favorite music as you try moving on with life.

As my good friend gauriwrites would say love yourself before loving another. If you do this heartbreaks and breakups are more bearable. Yes they will happen and you will feel as if you lost everything. Don't give up though just love you for being you and in time someone else will do the same.

Last but not least don't chase love. Love comes when you're not expecting/looking for it. When it does it is a beautiful thing but never be blindly in love. Always ask yourself questions. Don't just act on feelings also reflect upon them.