Dear New Girlfriend,

I know you probably don't know anything about me. I doubt he ever speaks of me. It probably hurts him too much, that or he doesn't care at all. I'd go with the latter, most likely.

I'd just like to remind you of a few things, perhaps just to ease my conscious. Regardless of whether it'd matter to you or not.

Firstly, promise me you will remember to love him, during the good and bad-times. Remember to love him even when the going gets tough, and days get hard.

Love him on the days he's not so nice to be around. Loving him on the ups is good, and all that jazz but if you can love him even on the downs, you deserve him.

His downs may be super down, but his ups can be higher than that basketball hoop he loves to shoot.

Secondly, promise to remember that he is an amazing guy when he wants to be even if he hates to show it.

He hates showing his sensitive side, it makes him feel vulnerable. Promise me you will try your best to understand him even when it feels impossible, and especially try your hardest to when he feels unable to understand himself.

Learn all about him, what makes him tick and if he thinks cruel jokes are funny too. Know him, to the absolute core, and I don't mean the façade he puts up for the rest of the world.

Know the guy deep inside that he's always been so afraid of showing.

Thirdly, promise to be his rock when everything else begins to fall apart around him.

Be the one person he can come to when he has issues, and the person he feels most comfortable talking about the things that can be uncomfortable to talk about.

The moment he feels lost and has no idea about anything anymore, be the one thing he does know and can count on.

Fourthly, promise me that you will appreciate the little-things he does at the start to show he cares.

Do not for one second take them for granted. They may stop if you don't take notice of them or if you get so comfortable, you expect that treatment twenty-four-seven.

Some days he will be tired and want to give ten percent, so those days will be when you need to step up and give ninety.

If you are lucky enough, you will be the girl he finally decides that commitment isn't too hard.

He will settle down for you and he will love you, not in a reckless kind of way but in a responsible way.

Lastly, promise to not force anything because that stuff scares him away.

If you try too hard, he will run away.

Let him choose the commitment life all on his own because that is when it is most beautiful and worth having stuck around with all the hiccups for.

I may have taken all the little-things for granted and forgot to be there for him when it all fell apart.

I may have gotten so caught up in my own shit, I forgot that he needed me too.

Do not ever forget that there is two of you doing this hard life, not just one.

He is just as important as you.

Remember that because sometimes he forgets that about himself.

But hopefully, you will not make the same mistakes I did.

Sincerely,

The girl full of regret.